White Lilly bridal: Boho-Luxe Wedding Dresses From the Heart of South Africa

From classic cuts with adorable laces to fashion-forward designs with geometric patterns, there is not a single dress in the Modern Romance range that I don’t love.  If my own dress hunting days hadn’t been over already I would definitely jump on a plane to Jo’burg to visit White Lilly Ateliér, but to any of my friends or readers who recently got engaged, if you are a bride yearning for a unique wedding dress  I definitely think there could be a dress for you this alluring bridal range.

Bohemian luxe wedding gowns by White Lilly - presented by Sheer Ever After weddings

Since opening in 2013, White Lilly Atelier has become a leading South African bridal couturier, embodying femininity and romance for the discerning bohemian bride.

Founder Jacelyn Gozadinos worked in the fashion industry for 10 years and travelled extensively around the world learning about trends and development before launching her own brand.


Bohemian luxe wedding gowns by White Lilly - presented by Sheer Ever After weddings


The move into haute couture bridal wear, was a natural progression for this lifelong  design enthusiast.

“I adore beautiful fabrics, exquisite beading and soft dresses that flow,” she explains. “The type of dresses I specialize in – unique, boho-luxe wedding gowns that typically feature hours of delicate bead work – allow me to indulge my passions.”

Jacelyn’s designs for the free-spirited bride, the modernista, the bohemian goddess and every woman in between. Favourite fabrics include pure silk, Chantilly lace, and layers of silk chiffons, georgettes and tulle.


Bohemian luxe wedding gowns by White Lilly - presented by Sheer Ever After weddings


The White Lilly label represents beauty, comfort, class and quality. Each dress is a true work of art; designed to look effortless and be rich in texture. All designs are romantic, feminine and often avantgarde, and the dresses appear in bridal publications regularly.

White Lily Atelier currently offers two beautiful collections, in this article we present you with the ready-to-wear line MODERN ROMANCE:



A sophisticated, long-sleeved dress with beautiful, beaded French lace on the cuff and shoulder.



The bodice boasts a lovely, lace-edge detail, while the low back adds interest. True bohemian elegance!



This simple, yet striking dress features soft draping and a beautiful cut-out back in with scalloped edging.


This bohemian-inspired lace dress boasts the most beautiful, detachable bell sleeves that means you can change your look from ceremony to reception


A superb dress for brides who want to make a subtle statement. The plunging bodice features tulle which cascades down into soft, pretty layers on the skirt.




It’s impossible to resist this bohemian-inspired dress. Draped sleeves add to its soft, feminine and free-spirited appeal. 



A fresh, feminine dress with a soft silhouette. The strap-free bodice features hand-beaded lace and silk-covered buttons, while the soft tulle skirt flows from a gentle waist band.




This ethereal dress is a dream. The bodice is adorned with beaded lace, while the soft, floaty tulle skirt flows with your movements.




A gorgeous Grecian-inspired dress. The draped bodice, beadwork, 3D flowers, embroidery and a full, floaty skirt are just some of the features to admire.



This stylish dress combines geometric mesh, hand-beaded French lace and silk-covered buttons over a soft, blush lining. Three-quarter sleeves ensure year-round appeal and add to the dress’s softly sophisticated feel.


This sensational dress commands attention. Made from geometric mesh, its features include the key hole opening in front and fringing along the back and sleeves. A one-of-a-kind wedding dress.



SOFIE dress from the Wild Hearts collection

All wedding gowns are beautifully hand-crafted and made-to-order. You can contact Jacelyn via the White Lilly website, here. You can also follow them on Instagram or Facebook.

(Bonus for international customers is the favorable South African exchange rate, which means you can snap up some of these beauties for less than $1000!)

Look out for the next article on White Lilly where we will present you with their stunning Haute Coutoure collecttion WILD HEARTS

All the best


image sources: white lilly atelier // roxy burger


The causes and cures of Wedding Distress (Brides and friends of brides you have to read this!)

Having been a bride-to-be for nearly 6 months, I have definitely had moments of despair and disbelief, especially in the last month or so which proved more challenging in ways I could have never expected. First it looked like my mum suddenly wasn’t going make it because of requiring surgery. My maid of honour had a car crash and injured a disc in her neck. My custom-ordered wedding dress turned out to be a disaster and I struggled for almost a month to get a refund. I fell when running and smashed my face on the pavement, spending 2 weeks swollen, badly bruised and a nose like a sweet potatoe. When my new dress maker seemed to have vanished into thin air with my deposit and precious bridal fabric, I was on the verge on a “bridal breakdown” for sure. I was ready to cancel all wedding plans and elope.


Causes and Cures for Wedding Planning Panic

Luckily, all the things above got more or less resolved eventually. But I am still struggling with the anxious aftermaths, difficulty to sleep some nights, fatigue and my lips have taken a beating as I can’t seem to stop nibbling on them.

So what it is that happens to us when we are planning a wedding? Why are brides susceptible to anxiety? Why can the months of engagement easily turn into months of stress, and sometimes even dread?

Now with this unfortunate hands-on-experience, it is time to dive deep into the subject and unravel the causes – and cures- of wedding panic.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic

In the research from popular wedding articles on online wedding blogs, everyone is taking about “BRIDEZILLA”.
If you ask me, this term is extremely unfair and judgemental!
I want to tell all brides out there, that we have every right to “go mental” as brides-to-be. Being engaged and planning a wedding is SO charged of various and contrasting emotions:

On the one hand:
Extreme happiness. Excitement. Looking forward to an incredible special day. Waiting for a life together with the love of our life. Getting to choose between fantastic dresses, décor, music, all things related to wedding conceptualizing and design. Looking forward to spending time with family and friends. Fun preparations together with your wedding party.

On the other hand:
Anticipation – easily turned into nervousness. Complex emotions about what lies ahead – marriage is a pretty big commitment right?
Indecisiveness – there seems to  be an infinite of big and small decisions to be made- after about 50 decisions it gets pretty muddled as of what is relevant and irrelevant. (Napkin colours – do you know what I mean?)
The prospect of being centre of attention can frighten some – me included.
The prospect of coordinating and getting all the details to fit together into one smooth and seamless event – we want it to be amazing on top of that.
Family and friends from all walks of life in one place can be joyful but  also overwhelming.
Juggling bridesmaids personalities and making decisions as a group.
Deciding on their dresses – and the big one: deciding on YOUR DRESS, shoes, hair, makeup and accessories – hello! I can take 1 hour getting ready for an evening with book club and I know others that are similar or worse. For a day when one is going to be the most photographed EVER, one can easily develop anxieties about ones appearance, not to mention ones figure. Especially when there are millions of dresses and shoes etc to choose from.

There is already a lot of pressure on women to look good just in everyday life, on ones wedding that pressure is amplified beyond what many women are comfortable with. A common description of the typical wedding day as PERFECT – no wonder at all that brides-to-be are yearning for a perfect wedding day too, which includes perfect appearance, perfect details and perfect everything. This is why, my dear readers, brides-to-be often come across as “perfectionists” – and it opens every single possibility of immense insecurity.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic

Many women getting married have no problems with the above and take wedding preparations in their stride, or just hire a wedding planner. But for any one who has even the slightest inclination towards anxiety and self-doubt, this is definitely one of the more challenging times a woman will ever be going through. (Ok, raising toddlers and teenagers might be worse)

So will everyone PLEASE stop talking about bridezillas now, and simply have some understanding and compassion of what it is like? Brides are often accused for being “Divas”, Neglectful of others (including fiancés),  Aggressive, Irritable, Perfectionists, Obsessed, Attention seeking and the worst: Irrational.
All these behaviours are merely symptoms of the extreme stress, anxiety and the overwhelming phase we are going through. Have some mercy on brides, man!

Instead of the bride being constantly asked to monitor her behaviour, being kinder to bridesmaids, being more grateful, humble and serene, how about her near and dear ones stops mocking her and instead showing a bit compassion and understanding? If she is attention seeking – maybe you haven’t given her enough attention? If a friend of you is getting married and you find her worrying about centrepieces – just stop for a sec and realize that this is a woman in distress, and she is not intentionally being relentless or “irrational”, but only experiencing insecurity and confusion whether to please her grandma or her uncle in the choice of flowers.

It is not a conscious decision by brides to act this way– it is rather that we are under attack by wedding demons, way beyond what we can control ourselves. Our bridezilla diva tendencies is not a choice – it is a result of too much pressure from every direction. Because we have looked forward to this special day for a long time, and now it is fast approaching – surely that is reason enough to get hyper-excited about everything about it – even the flower girls basket?

We have never done this kind of thing before – so it is obvious why one is going to feel insecure and bewildered, all at the very same time.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic
Have you ever found yourself spending more than 20 minutes in the cereal aisle of a supermarket trying to decide what breakfast cereal you want? There are simply too many brands to choose from, alluring packaging, concepts of what is good for you or not, in the end of it  you don’t even know what you like anymore. Do I like cranberries or raisins more? Do I prefer granola or flakes? Gooseberry/ almond or cashew/ fig? What about my fiancé, what does he like again – maybe this sports blend? In the end, you might pick up something that you really didn’t like, or walked out of the aisle empty handed.

Even a normal person can find this detailed decision making too much. Multiply that feeling by 10.000 – that is what it is like to be a bride. Do you follow? Stress and too much choice can make any normal human irrational. It is not fun.

Ok, so lets stop ranting and rather take a quick look at what can be done to support a bride you know going through this, or if you are a bride, how you can help yourself feeling this confused way. Because maybe you like me is just sick of spending everyone waking hour thinking about your wedding, debating endlessly with yourself if you want a block heel or a stiletto for your wedding shoe, how much to spend on the dessert buffet, associating everything in your surrounding to your wedding (it is not pleasant im telling you – when I go for a “relaxing” run I cant stop thinking about greenery garlands, and that is most likely why I tripped and bashed my face into the pavement)
Maybe you are sick of finding yourself absent minded and distracted (I have found mittens in the freezer) because your mind is full of possible vendors, leaving you unable to concentrate on everyday tasks.

The main objective is:

To calm the bride/ you down and find some healthy distance to the issue – try watching a lighthearted movie (not about weddings), go for a walk in nature, or visit a friend who is not in your wedding party ( do NOT talk about weddings)
To understand that the bride/ you  are not going crazy, she/ you are going through a stressful time, and everybody does sometime so it’s okay
To realize the bride/ you are not a wedding “freak” and this is really normal (hence the numerous articles on the subject)
The bride is/ you are not acting this way by choice, she is/ you are temporarily taken away by feelings that are outside of her normal personality and she needs gentle treatment to come out of it – not making fun of, brushing over, or abandonment
To understand that the wedding is only the brides/ yours and your fiancés – not some bridal blog or wedding magazine. Peer pressure and comparing with other weddings can leave one feeling “not good enough” But the most important thing is that you create your day your way, not anybody else’s.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic

How to deal with yourself/ a bride you know in times of wedding worry before it leads to acute bridal distress
It is important to get some wedding “off”time and plan some time away from wedding planning. For example, try to have a few wedding free days per week
As a wedding planning human being, you are going to have 100s of ideas coming to you at random times. Instead of trying to have all your wedding ideas and thoughts in your head, put it somewhere like in your phone. Me and the fiancé share a list where we jolt down what we come up with, just to get it off our minds, and can look at it later. (We have ended up scrapping most of the ideas already)
Limit wedding related social media time – if Internet was ever accused for being information overload – Pinterest is inspiration overload.
Have a friend – who is not in your wedding party- you can talk to about your wedding who isn’t personally involved. It can be especially helpful to talk to an older, already  married woman. They will help you get some healthy perspective and realistic view points.
Try to solve other things in your life as a distraction – perhaps time to reupholster that sofa? If you don’t keep up with your “normal” life at the same time as wedding planning, you are almost guaranteed to feel empty and sad after the big day – a.k.a the “wedding blues”
Adopt a cheerful motto such as “Everything is going to be fine in the end – and if it is not fine, it is not the end” or similar for a bit of self-reassuring as needed
Try to limit the amount of alcohol you consume – it makes sleeping much  harder, it exacerbates anxiety and endless worries, and is a depressant which could kill motivation.
Don’t crash diet – very bad for your mood and energy levels. Eat balanced, nutritious and stable diet – a bit of this and a bit of that, no deprivation because it tends to backlash in the end.
Have a stable and sensible exercise routine, don’t try too hard or you might burnout or loose the willpower
Pick out 3 – max 5- segments of the wedding to focus harder on, such as the ceremony, dress and the food, and let the other segments of the party be less important (napkins, flower girl baskets etc). That way your attention will not get spread too thin.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Planning Panic
As soon as you are engaged, people will LOVE to tell you everything you should and shouldn’t do. Just smile, say thank you very much, mop up one or two ideas (or none) and then move on. It is your wedding so create it from your heart and your individual circumstances. Know what you love and what you don’t – it will make deciding much easier. No two weddings are ever going to be the same. You are not arranging somebody else’s wedding – your and your grooms only. There is no right or wrong way. Realizing that will take a huge bundle of stress of your shoulders.

It’s hard not to get caught up in all the attention and excitement, and most of the time in is FUN. There’s nothing wrong with being eager about your wedding and gorging in all the details – no matter how serious or silly they are. So try to just relax and have a good time, keep your happiness and motivation level as high as possible, be sensible for your own sake  and enjoy the process! You are most likely only going through this time once in your life, this time will fly by quickly so be as “bridal” as you feel like and hopefully your surroundings will be understanding enough for you to keep up with your wedding enthusiasm 🙂

image sources: hello may // joel allegretto // hey wedding lady   //  magnolia rouge // my wedding guides

Iconic 2017 wedding dresses – the best styles summarized

The year 2017 have seen trends such as tiered skirts, the rise of the illusion bodice, and plunging back designs. There has also been a continuous increase in the popularity of the boho gown, princess gowns as well as modest high necklines.

It is a year where total opposites have worked just as well so it should be easy for every bride getting married this year to find something to suit her taste.

Designers such as Marchesa Bridal, Jenny Packham, Mira Zwillinger and Monique Lhullier have embodied some of these trends perfectly.

Iconic wedding dress looks 2017 ---Presented by Sheer Ever After weddings

Typical looks

Soft and voluminous layers and revealing skin. Barely-there sheer paneling and hot necklines and backs. Skin showing through cutouts -front or back- are also right on the money. The summary key word is “ethereal glamor”.  Look at designers such as Berta or Liz Martinez for inspiration.

Colours: the immaculate white or ivory dress seems passé – rather be fashion-forward go for a shade of dark ivory, light blush, champagne, nude, silver or even serenity blue.

Sleeves: the off-the-shoulder dress continues to triumph, especially for destination, boho-chic and beach brides. Choose either longs sleeve or short sleeve, or just a symbolic “curtain” of fabric worn on your upper arms. Short sleeves, cap sleeves and long sleeves are all seen frequently – the boob tube bodice is no longer a standard choice as more and more brides are opting for some form of design for the shoulders and arms.
Another trend is the looser, less fitted sleeve for a romantic and airy look. The bold and trend setting bride might go  for a dramatic fairly sleeve, flutter or bell sleeve on her dress.

The sweetheart neckline is still a popular choice for bride – in 2017 the plunge got a bit deeper (sometimes all the way down to the waist), but to balance the revealing cleavage an illusion fabric has been added for a bit of coverage.


As well as daring plunging necklines, on the opposite end of the skin-baring spectrum we have seen a rebirth of the modest style dress with high Victorian collars that encircles the base of the neck. The prim and proper necklines have taken hold and will continue to do so in 2018.

So you are free to choose either daring or modest – two opposites that work just as well for your 2017 wedding.

Back design
: Intricate and detailed open backs with or without illusion fabric, and bejeweled details. The deep and super-adorned v-back design also made an entry this year. Show stopping keyhole back designs with intricate and glamourous details such as beading and sequins are also on the rise.


The Styles and Details

The boho trend has definitely taken a hold and is a trend here to stay. 2017 has brought in flavours of gypsy bridal looks, inspired by music festivals and free-loving wedding themes. Look for hippie influence floral pattern French lace, 70’s cut gown with bold details such as fringes, crochet elements and bell sleeves. So great for a non-conventional bride with her main agenda being showcasing her personal and care-free style.



If you are a minimalist bride, 2017 has many exciting dresses to choose from. Separated from unnecessary frills, lace and small details, the fabrics and lines of these dresses are smooth and uncomplicated which gives a clean and sleek impression for the bride who needs very little to  shine. Available in any silhouette, neckline and sleeve length, there is no reason to feel deprived of style.


In the opposite direction, another trend we see an increase in decadent details. Applique, floral 3D detailing, beading, crystals, feathers and twinkling adornments that will make you feel like a star. Expect to see a field of blossoms swirling across the sheer bodice of a floaty romantic dress (ideally in a hue of rose quartz)

The Shapes:

Bridal silhouettes are now less structured and more soft and flowy – perfect for dancing and for hot season weddings. An easy a-line dress with soft tulle or layers of chiffon creates a swishy and light look that will truly make a bride feel liberated and comfortable.

The super size ball gown have seen a come back – good news for the dramatic and traditional bride who craves the princess experience. Tiers and ruffles are also seen more often to add visual interest, give architectural shape and exaggerated volume to the skirt.

The trumpet/ fit and flare silhouette gently hugs in at the hips, and then hangs loosely in a softer flow around the legs. Not quite A-line/ sheath and not quite fitted like a mermaid, this is a perfect shape for equal comfort and allure.


A trend who marries the best of both trends is the detachable over skirt – wear the large size skirt for your ceremony and photos, and for the reception you simply remove the ball gown and reveal a cocktail or fitted dress perfect for mingling and dancing.

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Choose according to the style of your wedding, personal preference and the season of your wedding. If you follow trends or not is your choice – the important things is that you find the dress you adore, regardless of what anyone else tells you 😉


Image credits: harpers bazaar // wedding insirasi // pinterest


Daughters of Simone – equally feminine and fierce wedding dresses

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Daughters of Simone is a brand inspired by women from generations of non-traditionalists, independent of the idea of princess weddings in exchange for allowing brides to simply be who they are on their wedding day. The brand is doing something quite unique in the world of wedding dresses: celebrating the unorthodox and revolutionary.

The beginning of Daughters of Simone began when Brit began to questions her lack of connection to conventional wedding gowns. This notion sparked a yearning to curate a selection of untraditional yet romantic designs made from vintage fabrics.

The name comes from the French philosopher and feminist Simone De Beauvoir;  a woman who spoke up for herself and did her own thing. A Daughters of  Simone bride is just this way – she knows who she is and she knows what she wants.

Independence, determination and creativity are fundamental cornerstones for the brand Daughters of Simone. Their unique designs never cease to bring authenticity into bridal fashion.

The dresses are a homage to strong women – the vagabonds, the dreamers and the rebels, and Daughters of Simone have ensured their gowns reflect this sentiment to make dresses for the fierce and care-free women of the world who keep charging forward.

Featuring buttery silks, delicate lace and an array of daring silhouettes – think deeply low cut backs, sweeping boho trains and off-the shoulder designs – these dresses are equal parts poetic and powerful.


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image sources: daughters of simone // want that wedding // wedding chicks // nouba // aheartflutter // pinterest


Lovable wedding dresses with long sleeves

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Even though my wedding is planned for early summer, I have been quite adamant that I want a longsleeve dress, even in the African heat.

Having sleeves in summer makes sense in some way though – it is a great protection from the burning sun! Also, if you haven’t done as many push-up as you intended to in the months leading up to the wedding, here you have a dress that will be forgiving on arms of any shape.

The long sleeve dresses I have tried make me feel more elegant than the strappy ones. I am not a prudish person otherwise, but covering my arms just feels more “me”. I however don’t mind at all a daring low back though or a plunging neck line – so in fact it isn’t about modesty, rather a style choice. And to stay warm for later in the evening.

For years and years we have seen a majority of wedding dresses being strapless boob-tubes (just one episode of Yes to the dress will confirm that) so it is definitely time to present just  how beautiful and regal a sleeve can make you.

Kate Middleton’s famous dress might have been the beginning of the turn of trends, and we, also recently Kelly Clarkson’s country rustic wedding and many more fashion forward women in the recent past: Alison from Girls, Christina Ricci, Olivia Palermo, Nicky Hilton amongst others.

If you don’t want full sleeves but still enjoy the feeling of a covering, an illusion fabric is the perfect compromise, and here you have the option of adding appliqué or detailing in material of your choice.

An classy bride may opt for full lace sleeves, with or without illusion as the base material, beading or pearl details for extra elegance.
A wild and care free bride could add a fringed or a crochet style lace, and the 70’s vintage bride a flaring bell sleeve.
If you are going for the vintage Hollywood look, well then there is simply not other better kind of dress – just think of Grace Kelly and Audrey Hepburns iconic dresses.

Whether minimalist or princess gown, there is a long sleeve wedding dress out there which is waiting to be yours. Still unsure? A bridal cover/ bolero will give you the best of two worlds 😉

Let the pictures speak for themselves!

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image resources: junebug / one fab day / le frufru / tulle and chantilly / hello may / pinterest

Take the stress out of the dress

Wedding gown shopping advise @Sheer ever after

Shopping for your wedding gown is one of the most wonderful but potentially stressful moments in your preparation for a wedding. Before hitting the wedding gown shops, it will be good for you to be aware of some crucial things, and by knowing these few tips, you should feel more confident of what you want as you begin the wedding gown search.

  1. Know your timeline

You may notice in many wedding planning checklists that you’re supposed to purchase your wedding dress six-eight months before the wedding. This may seem like an unnecessarily early date, but know that it typically takes 16-20 weeks to create your dress, and that doesn’t include the fittings you will need before. Not only do you want to have plenty of time to find The One, but all of the people who make your dress perfect need enough time to do so.

When you begin your search, keep in mind that  alterations can take one to two months. Don’t delay your wedding dress shopping!

2. Know your budget

One of the top mistakes brides make is not knowing the budget for their wedding gown before trying on dresses. Having at least a range that you are comfortable spending will help both you and your consultant when picking a dress.

Discuss your budget with your partner, with your parents, with anyone who might be involved in the purchase of your dress. Planning out your wedding budget ahead of time will help you know what you realistically know what you can afford. If someone else has offered to pay for it, ask what range they would be most comfortable with.

Don’t forget to leave room in the budget for shoes, veil, accessories and alterations.

3. Know your wedding

Before booking your bridal salon appointments, make sure you know the type of wedding you’re planning, when and where. This means the season, type of venue, and your wedding theme, if you have one. Yes, you can wear whatever you want, but if you purchase a low-key gown and you end up booking something really fancy, you may wish you went bigger and bolder.

The sleeves, skin exposure, train length and fabric could all depend on your ceremony space, wedding reception venue and the time of the year. In addition to bringing in images of dresses you like, having a mood board for your wedding décor can be a helpful tool for your consultant. If you’re getting married in a forest with rustic decor leading up to the altar, a traditional princess gown may not be the most cohesive fit.

4. Know your body

Be aware of what dress silhouette flatters your shape the most. Remember that not every style dress flatters every figure. Gowns where the bodice and skirt don’t transition smoothly can visually cut the body in unflattering ways. Likewise, thin fabrics such as silk or chiffon skim the body and tend to magnify every little detail.

5. Know your habits

Don’t buy a wedding dress too small because you want to lose weight before the wedding.  Avoid that stress by buying  the dress of your dreams that fits comfortably. Fit now, adjust later – a professional seamstress will be able to adjust the dress as much as 2 dress sizes down or up, if necessary.

You fiancé proposed to you as you are, and he will marry you as you are. Don’t stress too much about your weight, rather focus on sanity and wellbeing. There will be enough things to think about as it is – don’t push yourself over the limit.

6. Know your personal style

Unless you frequently don evening gowns in your every day life, it’s likely that you’re not sure what dress shape will look best on you. Instead of focusing on the silhouette you think will be most flattering, hone in on how you want to look on your wedding day. One of the most important factors here is the vibe of your wedding. It can be helpful to have a few guide words like “classic,” “boho,” “glamorous,” or “vintage” to share with your bridal consultant, who will have a better idea of the look and feel of your day.  Bringing along images of gown styles and silhouettes that interest you can also be helpful.

In order to best know your style – just look at  the dresses in your wardrobe. What do you  feel most fabulous in? It’s a good idea to have a list of things that you love and don’t love, but be open to trying some things that might surprise you.
Although all that looks great in a magazine might be a different story in reality, many dresses can be altered to fit your vision.


7. Know your local shops and designers

One of the most helpful pieces of advice we can give is to research the stores in your area before booking your first bridal appointment. Not every store carries the same gowns or even the same designers. Different salons tend to have a slightly different style or bridal clientèle, much like any other boutique.

When you look for your dress, go with your own instinct. Don’t let your entourage mislead you with their own personal opinions. Most importantly, choose with your personal style and comfort in mind. If you feel great when you wear it, then you know this might be the one!

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8. Know your options

Going to a bridal dress shop is not the only way of buying  dress. You actually have plenty of options should you not find your dream dress on the well trodden path. If you find the dresses in the high street shop too ordinary, in the bridal boutique too expensive, you also have the option of buying a dress second hand via portals such as Still White or Preowned Dresses, or even your local online classifieds such as Gumtree.

Try Etsy for an unique and artisan dress, or online fashion wholesalers such as Luulla. be cautious when ordering online though – rather buy a dress that you know is a bit big and then have it adjusted locally. If I were you I’d definitely avoid the Chinese wholesalers altogether – if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is!

You could look in vintage shops for unique wedding dresses and tailor it to suit your personal style. Likewise, ask around in your network for a family members or friends wedding dress, either buy it and have it remade or borrow and wear as it is.

Another viable option if you can’t find what you are looking for, is to find a pattern maker and seamstress that will create the dress of your dreams, where you get to choose the shape, details and fabric entirely on your own.

Some more tools (to use as a guideline only) is the fun Wedding dress style quiz to gauge what dress style might suit you,  and this handy chart of what silhouette would suit your body shape:


This is a very exciting journey – best of luck!

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Image sources: Deer Pearl Flowers / Green Wedding shoes / Weddingomania / Pinterest / trubridal 
















Charming champagne wedding dresses

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Champagne wedding dresses have become increasingly popular, and for many good reasons. Not only does it soften the somewhat harsh white, but it is a dreamy alternative to the ivory that has become the wedding standard colour.

Being less traditional and more natural looking than the white or ivory dress, but more “grown up” than blush, it is a great alternative for brides who want to strike a balance between elegance and uniqueness. It is a stunning compromise for fashion forward brides.

Another advantage is that it will be easier to re-purpose your wedding dress after the wedding should you want to wear it again (why not?) – just shorten the hem and you have a fabulous evening dress.

Whether choosing a nude layered underneath a lighter tone fabric to add a 3-dimensional aspect, or as a single colour gown, these light gold hues will add a touch of whimsical as well as bringing an air of sophistication to your look.

Champagne is an ideal colour choice if you have olive skin tone, as the ivory might appear too yellow.

In this weeks dress blog I will showcase just how pretty the champagne tones can be.

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jenny packham via the knot
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reem acra via miss zeit
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ersa atelier via belle the magazine
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ersa atelier via wedding inspirasi
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eva lendel via deer pearl flowers
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tara lauren via mod wedding
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elie saab via popsugar
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via shop style

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via wedding day magazine
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via watters
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via etsy
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rara avis via etsy
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via harper’s bazaar
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via wedding forward
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Rue de Seine – a magic spell from down under

Love Spell

Rue de Seine’s flowing silhouettes are loved by brides far beyond their Kiwi origins.

Influenced by folk art, festivals and anything whimsical, these gowns are daring and bold, yet romantic and soft. The silhouette is form fitting and flattering, with varied features and unusual details.

Designed for the free-thinking, confident and modern bride, the spirited and trend setting label’s latest collection boasts unique laces, which are made exclusively for Rue De Seine.

You will see hand crochet gowns and bold beaded florals on sheer fabrics, bohemian cotton lace with floral embroidery, gypsy inspired textiles and appliquéd lace panels which all flatter the female form and create unique design lines.

“We believe that our brides should be comfortable and true to their own style on their wedding day. Our collection offers a selection of romantic and effortlessly chic gowns inspired by the carefree spirit of the Rue De Seine bride” says designer, Michele Corty.

Michele says that “Love Spell is a celebration of free thinking, bold, and unconventional brides” and we couldn’t agree more.

Inspired by youthful and brave women, the dresses show the relaxed nature of the bride wearing it.

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Wedding dress inspiration - Rue de Seine @Sheer ever after

Wedding dress inspiration - Rue de Seine @Sheer ever after

Wedding dress inspiration - Rue de Seine @Sheer ever after

Wedding dress inspiration - Rue de Seine @Sheer ever after

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Wedding dress inspiration - Rue de Seine @Sheer ever after

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Image credits: Green Wedding shoes and Rue de Seine

Makeup: the dark berry pout

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I am by no means an expert on makeup, but as an artist, I think I am capable enough with a brush and paint to do my own wedding make up. OH-DEAR you might say, and there is a part of me that shares your concern, but I still have a good few months to practice, and you guys are gonna witness my progress here.

I am going for the barely-there look, as I think it is the best for an outdoor 2017 free spirited wedding, and as I almost never wear makeup IRL, I’d still like somewhat like myself on the wedding day. And this is why I don’t want to have somebody else in my face, literally.

Today I am practicing on my lips. The look I love is the natural lip colour, but in a darker and more intense colour. Here is an adorable girl with great lip colour:

dark berry pout

She’s got her overall looks in her favour but for now, lets just look at her lips. They are naturally full, but if one doesn’t have lips of that kind, like me, there are thankfully clever ways in which one can achieve a false sense of fullness, just with the use of different shades on the lips to create an impression of a fuller pout.


Here is today’s guinea pig for this experiment… Moi!

Step 1. Cover the lip with primer. This will give the products a better grip on your lips and will help them look better for longer. I am using one with SPF which will protect your lips  in sun – great for summer outdoor affairs. It is good to think about these things too!

pale lips

Step 2. Using a lip pen in the same shade more or less as your lipstick, to avoid the Pamela Anderson in the 90s look.  Carefully outline the lip contour, drawing on the outermost side of the lip line. you can see the difference in apparent lip size above. (Why people are using injection fillers I just don’t know.)

Step 3. Paint your lips with your colour of choice, (taking care to stay within the lipliner). I haven’t found the one colour I love the most yet, it is somewhat like the one below but a little bit more brown, and perhaps not as dark, like the girl in first picture. But this is just to create an example of the method.

Step 4. Now the magic begins! Take a lip pen/ lip crayon or lipstick which is 1-2 shades darker and deeper than your base colour. Apply it to the corners of the mouths, and 1/4 on each side, leaving the middle as 1/2 on the lips still in the base colour. Then blend gently to create a seamless transition.

thanks Gurl for the pictures

Depending on your preffered lipstyle, you can finish with a little extra gloss on top, keep it it the middle for extra 3D effect.

The lip pen I used was Smudge gel lip pen in medium brown, the lipstick for the filling was Max factor colour 9183 and for the centre of the lip I used Max factor max effect in Wild cherry. But these are too red for my bridal look, I will use something more natural and subtle on the day.
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This really makes the lips pop doesn’t it? With a little artistry you  can really create a transformation with just a few layers of colour. It does not require a lot of skill.

I am not curly-hair normally – this was one of those failed Pinterest experiments that I had done fancy myself up a bit for the engagement photo. (It got cancelled in the end – luckily!)

FUN! One must just make sure to wear kiss-able type of lipstick to spare hubby from being smeared with red on his wedding day. Matt lipsticks tend to stay on better, and that is also the effect I prefer, so that is what I’m gonna look out for next time I hit the shops.
Hope you have fun experimenting – pictures are welcome if you take any!


20 fabulous wedding shoes + practical advise

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White satin or lace wedding shoes may previously have been the standard look for brides, but the time has come to consider other colours, materials and adding unique features when it comes to your wedding footwear. It is a perfect opportunity to show your personality, and hopefully you can find a pair you will enjoy for years to come – so look for something made with quality that won’t go out of style.

In my opinion, wedding shoes with a difference are the best. Some colour, unique design, a glamorous touch of vintage or adding other dazzling edginess, and with a little bit of sensible choosing, it is possible to also combine this with comfort.

When shopping for your shoes, firstly consider the destination of the wedding. If the wedding ceremony is in the woods, be practical about the shoes you are wearing and skip the stilettos. Remember to test all shoes a few times so you know you will be comfortable in them on the day. For a venue with lawns, heel stoppers are a clever purchase for you and your bridesmaids to avoid heels sinking into the grass.

Don’t feel comfortable in heels but don’t wan’t to wear flats? Consider mid heel height and a block heel. The less pointy the heel, the more evenly the pressure will be distributed across the sole of the feet. Wedges are also a good option for sturdiness. They will allow for better posture, a greater ease of walking and ensure comfort all day long.

There is a lot of gorgeous shoes out there, whether coloured, metallic, sparkly, cute, killer, minimalist or with intricate details. Here is a bit of fantastical shoe-inspiration for your day.


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image via the vault

Super pretty vintage inspired nude heels with dusty pink and gold accents.
T-bar is a classic for a vintage wedding.

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via wedding chicks

The best choice if you plan to dance all night. A very pretty shade of blue, and comfortable design makes this a perfect contestant for wedding shoe wear. These could be ones favorite pair of shoes for your new life as a wife, casual or smart.

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image via ruffled

I adore block heels. It is very possible that I will choose this kind for my wedding. One can stand tall and sturdy and not worry about heels sinking into the lawn. These gorgeous pairs are fit for a Hollywood wedding with rhinestone and pearl covered straps. A classic shoe jazzed up to the max, still classic enough to work beyond the wedding – with jeans for cocktails with the girlfriends?

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via brit morin

A metallic statement shoe with rose gold accents which works well with the gorgeous shade of blue. Loving the midcentury vibes. Heel height looks about perfect.

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image via indulgy

Bold and fabulous red heels with ankle strap adorned with flowers. This kind of bold trend-setting vintage bride really inspires me.

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image via love my dress

Why not go for pink shoes? Covered in pink glitter? This pair of sparkly 1930s inspired heels would make Dorothy green with envy.

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via weddingomania

For a beach or summer outdoors wedding, sandals are the answer. Adorned with pretty stones and sparkles, these are fit for an eclectic-chic bride at any bohemian, gypsy or festival themed wedding. Very wearable for any occasion for years to come. Bonus!

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image via style me pretty

Dusty pink with laser cut detail and tiny sparkly studs. The ribbon strap softens the look on these gorgeous and delicate flats.

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via nouba

A sturdy wide heel is the right choice for the vintage indie bride. Gold makes it even more better. Comfortable for dancing, too.

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via fab you bliss

The bow makes these princess-pretty. The heels are otherwise minimalistic for the stylish bride who wants to add just a little bit of quirkiness to her wedding outfit. Careful removal of the bow would turn them into a pair of great work shoes.


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via apryl ann

Why not go for green? It is the wedding colour of the year after all.


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via fab you bliss

A lot of the shoes are coloured in this spread. But I just want to prove to  you that it can be so great to go for colour. Badgley Miscka does beautiful shoes, a great designer of wedding dresses as well as shoes. Just look at the cute details on these.

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image via everything that sparkles

Another fab Bagdley Miscka pair. Nude with gold beads and crystal embellishments.


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via wedding forward

Zara did not necessarily intend to make bridal shoes, but these fantastic glittery flats will do the job just right. Will be absolutely perfect on the dance floor!

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image wedding forward

Block heel at a comfortable height, silver ankle straps and simple design makes these heel/ sandals a realistic choice for brides (like me) who are mostly interested in simplicity, comfort and re-usability.


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via fashionetter

I do love a good wedge. It is really realistic that one would wear these again after the wedding. Perhaps even for lunch the day after?


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via fashionetter

Simple, elegant and white – perfect for a modern wedding. If they are too plain for you – how about adding a lace bow or clip on flower? Or DIY encrust your heels? An example comes next…

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image via love my dress

A bewildering amount of glamorous detail as a delightful surprise. Makes for gorgeous shoe photos for your wedding album.


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via want that wedding

A pair of great but ordinary white heels can be transformed with handpainted florals. If you are not a trained artist, try modge podge decoupage! The technique also works with glitter and lace. (Think I will have to make a spread on this soon…)

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via wedding forward

Pointy ballerina flats with a thin ankle straps could definitely be seen on my wedding, especially in this gentle shade of blue.

I am quite sure there will be more shoes here soon, whether they are blue, pink, nude, gold, lace, designer, glittery, embellished or floral.. there is a lot out there that needs to be explored!