Elopement wedding – why & why not?

Elopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

Wedding planning is the best thing ever for some – and the worst for others. Not every bride and groom are smitten by the idea of a big celebration with a hundred or more of people around them. Your personalities, priorities and your lust for adventure might just make it more sensible to elope as opposed to arranging a traditional wedding.

Perhaps you are a bit shy, favor independence or possibly have complicated family relations, or for any other reason -such as a sense of fun, romance, or practical or budget reasons- feel like eloping is more up your street. If you have a tendency to get stressed out, or simply cannot understand what the big “fuss” is all about – an elopement might be your answer.

It could be simple reason that you prefer to do something purely for yourselves, or something a bit different, and you might find that it suits you better to create your own wedding day layout as supposed to following a line of conventional traditions, that you might not feel any connection to, or find irrelevant or unnecessary to you.

Is elopement for you? Or are you determined to have the traditional wedding day, where you and your groom are the king and queen of the day? Which option would make your wedding dream come true?

The advantages of a traditional wedding:

  • The buzz and fun of the preparations (some love a challenge of this kind!)
  • It is a once-in-a-life time event (supposedly…)
  • It is a big get-together where 2 families can get to know each other better and celebrate together as one family
  • A chance for all your friends from all walks of life to meet and mingle
  • The traditions: cake cutting, garter toss, bouquet toss, first dance etc – some brides have looked forward to this all their life
  • The reception party with food, dancing, guest book, favours, centrepieces etc
  • The opportunity to design and decorate your dream day with flowers, decor and colours
  • Photographs with lots of family members and guests
  • Significant memories for family members and friends
  • The shared joy amongst all attending
  • “Celebrities” for a day, being the centre of attention
  • The registry – people will most likely give gifts or cash and you can wish for anything you likeElopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

    The disadvantage of a traditional wedding

  • The cost of renting a venue, tent, feeding people, wedding party, hair and makeup etc
  • The pressure and stress involved with planning and coordinating a big event, such as guest list, invites and RSVP management
  • People management – bridesmaids drama, flaring up family feuds, grumpy step-cousins who did not get invited and so on
  • Nerves – not everyone is built to handle stress well
  • Stage fright – not every person enjoys being in the spotlight
  • Loud and “crazy” – not everyone likes dancing or being at a big party
  • The more people involved, the more opinions and personalities are in the mix
  • The build up to the wedding can be exhausting, especially the week before when all final details must fall into place, and out of town guests start to arrive
  • The need to find good vendors and people you can rely on and trust to do a good job – you have to be comfortable with putting your fate in their hands
  • It might put a lot of pressure on the bride to look great, loose weight, have perfect hair and makeup etc
  • Dress, shoe and accessory hunting (not just for for bride, but bridesmaids, groom and groomsmen too) is actually pretty confusing and hard mental work, not to mention pricey
  • Liaison and negotiations about costs and contracts with vendors – not everyone is cut out to be a business woman/ man
  • Lots of small and big decisions to be made, which can prove overwhelming especially if your nature is anxious and indecisive
  • Planning details such as seating chart, choice of music, wedding colours, even choosing the wedding party – some think these aspects shadow what the wedding truly should be about – the newly weds
  • Depending on how lucky/ resilient/ multi tasking genius you and your groom are – the months of wedding planning could be a stressful nightmare. Not everyone is up for it

Elopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

Elopement: Advantages

  • It is all about you, your love and your commitment to each other
  • There is nothing else in the way for the 2 of you  to enjoy each others presence
  • Less risk of mishaps – except missing the plane I suppose
  • No paraphernalia (flower girl’s nappy needs changing, bridesmaid broke her stiletto, escort cards blew away in the wind..) to worry about
  • It will most likely be a lot less expensive (unless you decide to travel far and wide with a luxury honeymoon)
  • Can save the money for something long term which is perhaps more worthwhile than a few hours of party – or splash it on that luxury honeymoon
  • Less people= having to rely less heavily on others
  • You can be more in control of your own wedding
  • Manageable size = less stress = easier to achieve
  • Can be planned sooner = shorter engagement
  • More spontaneous and “wild” (Las Vegas, anyone?)
  • Some say it is more romantic
  • Great excuse to travel to your dream destination
  • You can still have the dress, the flowers, professional photos and cake, at a smaller and more cost-effective scale
  • Could spend more money on your wedding dress (- hello Grace Loves Lace!)
  • Can create a completely unique day, choose an unusual ceremony spot (nature, city, unconventional locations and buildings not normally used as a wedding venue)
  • Can get amazing wedding photos in a wedding destination that would probably not have been possible otherwise.

Disadvantages of eloping

  • If keeping it secret, you will not get much help from others, unless you still hire a wedding planner
  • It foregos certain aspect of wedding preparations (dress hunting with mum and maid of honour, getting ready with the girls, or bachelorette party for example) – which you might feel like you missed out on
  • Lonesome – perhaps you do want to have near and dear around you when you make the promise of a lifetime
  • Possibly regretting not arranging the “big day” afterwards
  • Family and friends might feel left out and get resentful
  • You probably wont receive many gifts

It is basically personality and a list of preferences that should determine your choice. Remember, just because you got engaged, it does not automatically mean you are destined to have a wedding with all the traditional aspects that comes with it. Modern weddings are completely flexible events and you can plan it to suit both of you  perfectly.

Do give elopement a thought if you  are daunted by the prospect of arranging a traditional wedding day, or simply feel a desire to do something “different” and being adventurous with your groom. In the end of the day, you are marrying your husband and not anyone else or a tradition you are not bothered about – the most important thing is that you as a couple both are doing what feels most natural to you.

Torn? The perfect compromise: An Intimate Wedding!

Final tip: it is best to decide if you are eloping or not BEFORE you invite people to your wedding or pick a bridal party – in order to not making people disappointed 🙂

Elopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

image credits: junebug weddings // intimate weddings

 

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Whimsical wedding fonts

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Since I made my own wedding stationary, I’ve become quite the font-o-holic – which truly is a wonderful past time by the way. The web is a superb resource for free fonts which you can download with a few clicks and then use for signage, wedding papers, guestbook, favour labels, your wedding website or whatever you feel like. Even if you have hired a wedding graphic designer already, you should definitely discuss specialty fonts with him or her in order for you and your groom to get the look that goes with your theme and personal style preference. Design-nerds like me do think it adds personality and interest to the vital design elements of your wedding, which can make a great deal of difference, how arbitrary it may sound!

I recently did a whole lot of online research (I e pinning) to see what typography awesome-ness the internet can provide. Adobe InDesign or Photoshop are not tooo difficult to learn, there are even online tutorials for beginners such as this one

With fonts and wedding graphic design, remember not to use too many different types or it might look messy. Simplicity and co-ordination gives a cleaner and more elegant impression. Choose 3 fonts max. You can mix them up by using different sizes and some capital and some regular.

I made this example just for you lovelies. I swear it took me less than 30 minutes in Photoshop – and I’m not trained in graphic design. If I can do this anyone can, quite literally! If you contact me I can send you the file so you can customize it.

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I have used 3 fonts here: I Love Glitter, Moon and Abraham Lincoln. What I like about this kind of design is that it is clean, uncluttered and modern, but with a cute artsy twist.

Some basics: If you use a script font, don’t use more than one. Same with serif and sans serif fonts (serif is the little curl or foot at the ends of the letter) – choose one of each for a clutter-free typography that is both pleasing on the eye and easy to read.
I do want to dearly thank We Lived Happily Ever After for the beautiful free rustic graphics.
I think at some point I might create a series of these for you cool chicks to download for free, but for now I have given you at least a taster, and a collection of fabulous fonts to use in your wedding: signs, stationary, other printables that you choose. I hope to have sparked your creative plugs – if I have please send me a picture 🙂

Go wild!

I Do Wedding Decor

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So, you are engaged, you are excited, and you have a Pinterest wedding board with endless DIY projects and decor inspiration pins that all look so  fun and fantastic, and you  have already started 4 of them simultaneously?

(Hey – that sounds like me!)

But before you get started with the embroidery hoops, burlap chair covers and hand calligraphed wooden signs, just stop and think for a moment. Am I able to make this look good in real life? Do I have the time, resources and concentration for this, honestly?

Unless you are a seasoned DIYer and creative, got some necessary tools in the shed, plenty of time and space to work and to store, chances are that the amazing DIY pin might make your wedding decor more or less wacky-tacky and painful to achieve. Save yourself from the frustration of having worked on something for months, then realizing the week before the wedding that it looks not only like it has been stolen straight from pinterest, but in a shabby in a not-so-chic way.

If you are doing your decor yourself in order to save cash, think again carefully. A lot of materials are not cheap to buy and sometimes hard to come buy – this would obviously add extra stress and take up your valuable time, not to mention create holes in the wedding budget uneccesarily.

Therefore, I feel the urgent need to curate this list for you, all the bold and beautiful aspiring bohemian-or-not-bohemian brides out there, because you actually don’t want your wedding to be over-styled and there is only so much decor that your guests can absorb and appreciate anyway. Don’t go wild with the burlap just yet, rather focus on a few co-ordinated statement pieces – less is more even when it comes to wedding decor you know –  we don’t want weddings like a licorice all-sorts packet. Choose with sensibility and style in mind, do your carefully selected projects really well, as supposed too doing many in a maddened creative frenzy.
Then you should find your DIY-ing really fulfilling and fruitful! It can be one of the most enjoyable aspects of your wedding preparation, if done cleverly.

DIY decor projects  

That are actually:
-DO-ABLE even for those with clumsy fingers and no previous crafting skills
-CHEAP, but not tacky, and uses materials that you can find in nature, a supermarket or in your recycling box
-BEAUTIFUL not just on photo, will appeal to your guests whichever age and create the right rustic romantic atmosphere
-TASTEFUL and rustic but in an elegant and understated way. I’m all for rustic elegance when it comes to weddings.
-SUSTAINABLE. Reused. Repurposed. Recycled. What other words describe a perfect wedding day?

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Not talented with free hand script writing? Block style print will look just as good, and be more readable for your guests too. A pallet will do the job if you don’t have a blackboard handy. Will work for any rustic, woodland, boho-chic, gypsy, festival, industrial, barn-style, beach, summer, eclectic, outdoor, backyard or any modern wedding theme. Bonus: reuse after to a coffee table project for your new home. Bang.

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I can see this really working as leading the path for guests walking to the ceremony area. Head out to nearest woods, gather fallen branches from the ground, grab a few wildflowers then mount with glass bottles and twine. PS. Make sure the branches are securely fixed in the ground! Casting them in a bit of concrete will help with stability.

Two examples of rustic aisle decor than only takes minutes to assemble. Baby’s Breath flowers are so perfect for weddings – white, angelic and cheap. I like the idea of wrapping doilies into cones – you can do this for your confetti too. Images via juliehanandesign.com and Deer Pearl Flowers

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What can I say? Scattered foilage on the floor. Lit block candles. A frame built of branches and greenery. It all comes together into  ethereal,  romantic and DIY friendly ceremony  magic.

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Ceremony outdoors and don’t have a wall? Well hang a long piece of lace in a tree and get married right there. Or you are handy with a hammer (or can get someone who is involved), three sturdy planks or branches will give you a beautiful arch to decorate with foliage, flowers and fabric.

(TIP: instead of buying new fabric, consider finding lace or plain curtains in your local charity shop and sew them into one long piece)

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If you and your groom are feeling a bit on the wild side, or just want extra boho-vibes for your ceremony, consider building a wedding tepee!

For your confetti, why not take advantage of something that is abundant, free and biodegradable? Rosemary, olive leaf, or even lavender for a boost of fragrance and pretty colour. I love the idea of using book pages or musical notes to make the cones. Head to the garden store, a farm or a friendly neighbours garden. Easy and green!

You want something to create atmosphere around the venue where people hang out for cocktail hour. With branches, foilage, bottles and seasonal flowers you can easily make yourself a few ornaments that will wow without being wasteful of your time or budget, or mother earth for that matter.

Images from Wedding Chicks and Amazon

Are you into bunting but want to do it differently? Using bits of lace trim, (off cuts and scraps are relatively cheap at the haberdashery store) re purposed fabric or ribbon, you can make yourself a rather pretty  garland. Paper doilies are also a sweet addition to any rustic or whimsical decor. Garlands can be used as a backdrop, chair decor or just above head to create an instant festive atmosphere.

Project instructions can be found here

Twine orbs: all you need is a round balloon or ball you dont mind destroying, a few rolls of twine and white glue. Anyone can make them and it doesn’t take long either, and they are very versatile. Can be mounted in different ways as suggested above, to create a dreamy and impressive installation in trees or suspended in the reception ceiling. You can also wrap some string lights around them for an atmospheric light decor later in the evening.
A great thing about twine orbs is that you can re-use them in your home afterwards; they create great chandeliers or decorative patio lighting for example.

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Hulahoops are not only good for waistlines and entertaining kids for hours, you can also make the most stunning wedding chandeliers with them. Add string lights, lace, foilage of perhaps strings of beads, and you got a show stopper chandelier. All you need is a bunch of hoops, materials of your choice and a tall ladder. When the wedding is over and everyone has gone home, you can throw a big hula hoop competition for the wedding party. Or give the hoops as gifts to anyone with a sense of playfulness.

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Backdrop making should not make you drop of creative exhaustion. Get your bridesmaid to tie freshly harvested flowers and foliage on twine the day before the wedding. Attach to another string or branch and use to decorate the walls, the photo booth, the ceremony or as decoration behind your and your grooms chairs.

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Idea from here

This is originally not a wedding project, but I can see this really working as decoration on your gift or guestbook table. Grab a few bottles and jars from the recyling, prime with universal primer and then paint in colour of choice. The stencils can be found in an arts and craftshop, or with a home printer, a craft knife and some good finger work can be DIYed at home. Fab decor for your home after!

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Who could guess that tomato cans or bean tins could look so pretty? Plan a few months ahead, save up your tins, find a spray paint in your preferred colour and some more of the lace off cuts or ribbons I mentioned earlier. With a few flowers, baby’s breath and/or foliage you can have yourself some really pretty and ingenious flower features to decorate empty areas of your venue. I’d consider using these as part of the table decor too. Upcycling at its best.

Im rounding this post off with some chair decorations for your ceremony, but could also be used for the reception part of the day. If one is truly minimalist, eco-conscious and budget orientated, the chair decorations could be skipped altogether. But sometimes, such as for weddings, one just wants to go the extra mile doesn’t one. So I hereby welcome you to do your DIY the simple, understated but oh-so-rustic-elegant way. Happy foraging!