FREE Romantic and Whimsy Wedding Fonts

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Todays font collection is intended to introduce playful twists on classic wedding elegance, giving a enchanted and romantic wedding decor and stationery for your guests to admire. Combined with elements such as unstructured flower arrangements, floaty fabrics, soft color schemes and an informal yet elegant format, will bring a touch of untamed fairytale imagination and poetic freedom. Think Belle from Beauty and the Beast at a tea party with Jane Austen on a wild flower meadow.

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If you are planning a romantic whimsical wedding, make sure to begin with your stationary. Using a swirly decorative script font means you will introduce the sense of whimsy romance to your guests early on.

"Alice in Wonderland" themed refreshments for a bridal shower
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Let the theme carry through to your wedding signs, table numbers and seating charts, all the way to the thank you cards you send when the wedding has come and gone.

Other areas you  can personalize your design with typography is your wedding programs, your vow book and menus.

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A touch of vintage elegance is sure to enhance your printed wedding decor. Using wax seals, ornate frames, torn or deckle edge paper ware and a decorative font will bring that old world romantic ambiance straight into the present day. Add loose sprigs of greenery to modernize and soften the formal look.

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Invitations with floral motives, water color and calligraphy symbolize femininity, elegance and romance are all perfect ingredients for your whimsical wedding day.

Let whimsy romance sparkle on!

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  1. Penny gum (ADORN GARLAND)
  2. Fit n flare (BOMBSHELL PRO)
  3. Marriage prayer (HALLELUJAH)
  4. Vow book (STORY BOOK SCRIPT)
  5. Fig decor (FRUTILLA)
  6. First dance (DANCING SCRIPT)
  7. Lavender (GARDENIA)
  8. Centerpiece (ADORN POMANDER)
  9. Buttercream (BUTTERCUP)
  10. Spring nuptials (SPRING TIME)
  11. Bridesmaid (MISS BEAUTIFUL BOLD)
  12. Something blue (NOELAN)
  13. Honeymoon (LISBON SCRIPT)
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Planning An Extraordinary & Fuss-Free Wedding Part 2: The Extraordinary Aspects

Last week we shared some examples of wedding traditions and etiquettes that some people might agree with us are not THAT important to focus on in the wedding, that could be downscaled or perhaps even left out. In this weeks Wedding Planning post, we present you with the areas that we believe are more relevant.

(For your own interpretation, of course!)

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Dress – When I say relevant, I do not mean you need to expect to go into the “Say yes to the dress rapture”, but you need to feel comfortable and feel great wearing the dress. You might have seen a fab gown in an advert. But if you don’t love wearing it for the right reasons, you will regret it later. A more expensive dress is not necessarily going to be any better or more fabulous. Guests will not appreciate your appearance more because you spent more! Find a dress that feels “you” and remember that trends go out of fashion quickly so rather go for a timeless design. Remember there are 100s of dresses out there that could be “the one” – you will know when you  are wearing one just by how it makes you feel.

 

 

Hair– unless you are a hairstylist with serious skills it will be very hard to get your own hair right, even if you are going for a hair down boho style, you need a pro to make sure it is looking perfectly un-done and stays that way.

 

 

Wedding rings– it is for life – get something on the less “complicated” side, that way you wont grow out of it in 10 years. They are precious and symbolic to you and your husband and will always be a reminder of your love and commitment. Get wedding bands that you will identify with for a long time ahead, and don’t be afraid to custom make if you are not sure what you love the most. Classic and simple will be more durable for the test of time than trends.

 

 

Photography and videography – The big names can seem really expensive, but it is probably going to be worth it. If you don’t want to spend a third of your budget on photography and videography, do seek out up-and-coming photographers instead who  are not yet as established, whos work is most likely going to be just as good.

Whoever you end up choosing, be sure that you LOVE their style and previous work. They must also be able to make you feel comfortable and natural – so use that engagement shoot as a way to test the chemistry out and get used to the idea of being in front of the camera.
The pictures and videos are going to be your memories and documentation for the rest of your life – so the photographer and videographer talent and technique is everything!
New thing worth spending on: having a wedding gopro or even a drone to capture the ceremony, the venue and the wedding reception like nobody else saw it.

 

Ceremony music– If you go for live ceremony music and performance, make sure they are really good. Broken violins or off-key voices are not befitting for the special occasion and start of your marriage.

Officiant – ideally choose someone you  really click with. This part of the day is likely to be the most special to you and your groom and he/ she will say words of huge significance to you and your guests, so you don’t want to let budget decide when choosing officiant. Rather go for personal chemistry, recommendations and previous work records. Meeting and and communicating with the several times before the wedding is key.

 

Seating never go for plastic budget chairs! It is worth spending more to create the appropriate seating for your guests. Comfort is most important, so before you pick chairs, sit in them to make sure they feel good, and if possible have a seat cushion too. People will remember if they were uncomfortable for the whole night. Make sure the elderly guests will be comfortable too, maybe they need a few extra cushions or a more supportive chair. Lounge seating and barstools are equally important for the mingling hours  – no one likes tired feet. Ps. Make sure that all chairs are clean and not broken!

 

Having a weather plan B – needless to  say, we can never be in control of the weather, and even if the wedding is in the middle of summer you can never be too sure. If your wedding is outdoors, have a marquee or other structure where you can seek shelter. If parts of the day needs to be outside, it’s a nice idea to provide umbrellas or rain jackets for guests to borrow. Likewise, have blankets to hand out if it gets colder later in the evening, and a few gas heaters are also a good idea. Guests will go home sooner if they cold! It is not nice be too hot either – so that tent will be crucial to provide shade. Some fans and sunscreen is also a good idea.

Young guests will require entertainment or you wedding might turn chaotic. Games, drawing pads with crayons, activity book, and do consider a special kids area and appointing a child minder, so that the parents can focus on enjoying the day with you. appropriate food for children should be a priority – a hungry and frustrated child can quickly become a loud and demanding monster. Having children in your wedding can add a wonderful atmosphere, it can turn the other way too though. Don’t feel obliged to invite children, everybody will understand.

Entertainment for guests – if everyone can find something to do, your wedding is gonna be so much more enjoyable. Especially if there is a period of waiting in between ceremony and reception, do provide guests with something to keep occupied with. For example an upbeat live band, lawn games, mad libs, a huge canvas to paint on, guest book (make this a fun and interactive one), lounge seating with comfortable cushions, finger foods, plenty of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drink options, wedding bingo or other Q&A competition, etc. Create different zones and make it unique and fun – happy guests and laughters makes for the best wedding atmosphere, and all those interactive things to do will ignite conversation and make the guests familiar with one another. If the activities are a bit ridiculous that is good – you are creating life long lighthearted memories!

 

 

Wedding night hotel – Don’t go for budget options, but do tell the hotel (after) you have booked that it is for your wedding night. Ask them to leave a bottle of champagne and chocolates for you, or whatever you may like. The bed needs to be comfortable and the room quiet and secluded. Go for luxe and comfort  and make sure they can deliver breakfast to the room- this is a once in a lifetime night so indulge yourself! Make sure the room has a large bathtub so you can enjoy a relaxing, unwinding post wedding romantic bath. Do NOT stay at home!

Food and Drink – cut décor and wedding party costs and rather splash on amazing food – this is what guests will be taken aback by and remember for years to come. I am not a food and wine connoisseur, but I can ensure you what a great difference there is between a good vs bad tuna steak or Chardonnay. Rather go for flavour and abundance as opposed to trying to impress with fancy presentations and pretentious sounding names.

Special touches – What guests really are going to love and remember about your wedding are special personal touches (not Pinterest touches – sorry). So think together with your groom what you as a couple love, represent, and live for. For example: you love travel and you met in Mozambique on a charity project. Can you add a node to these aspects of your life to you wedding? Perhaps one or both of you have a hobby which can bring an influence. If you own a horse or a dog why not include it somehow? Walk down the aisle to your favorite Guns N Roses song. Serve dim sum as starters if your favorite restaurant is Chinese. If you are into cycling, have a miniature bicycle on top of the cake instead of the usual plastic toppers. And so on and so forth. – How can you make the wedding truly you? Let your imagination guide the way!

Another lovely way to individualize your big day is to involve friends and family in the making of your wedding. Maybe somebody makes the best brownies. Your uncle might have an impressive collection of patterned ties that the groomsmen can borrow. Maybe somebody is even legally able to officiate? Not only for saving cash, but more so to involve and personalize – everybody you ask will feel honoured  to help out, and coming together as a group for a great cause is a perfect way to strengthen family bonds.

Economize in the areas that feel less meaningful to you, so that you can make the parts of your wedding that matters extra special. Make it your day, your way. Be less concerned with following norms and traditions that doesn’t resonate with you, and concentrate on creating a fabulous and non-fussy day filled with memorable moments that you can proudly say it’s yours. 

All the best

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FREE Boho-Luxe wedding fonts!

Free Boho-luxe fonts for your grahic wedding projects

The boho spirit may have been born a long time ago, but it continues to resonate with brides of many generations. Why? It’s unique, glamorous, and as a bohemian style  is less formal and structured it opens doors to artful and individualized interpretation whether it is in clothing, home decór or weddings.

Boho combines organic, detailed, nature-inspired with simple, modern pieces. It is rebellious in an artful, natural and elegant way.

Boho-luxe is perfect if you want to embrace the laid-back, free spirited and informal wedding elements from the traditional bohemian style, but still want to enjoy luxurious cocktails, dreamy table settings reminiscent of “A Midsummers night dream”and a  sophisticated dress code. One part wild, one part high-end, the boho-luxe wedding vibes will suit you if you want a vintage-style but modern wedding, a romantic bohemian-style dress, metallic accents on your luxury table ware and high-end artisan wedding invites.

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Let your boho-luxe inspired invites feature foil imprints on high quality paper, letterpress, delicate wax seals and an overall vintage-luxurious understated design.

For your typography, go for a mixture between hand lettering, romantic script font, combined with neat and elegant modern typefaces to create the same juxtaposition between artful, romantic calligraphy and neat, modern elegance.

Decór-wise, boho-luxe is creative, full of vibrant colours such as jewel-tones and greenery. It has a touch of whimsical but less in a hippie way and more towards vintage glamour. Luxurious details such as metallic accents, well chosen natural elements, and although still handcrafted and effortlessly put together, decor items are less rustic and shabby but rather veering towards glamorous and antique.

It is easy to love this look as it represents a sophisticated break  from the “ragged” bohemian wedding look. Whether you’re rebellious or elegant, romantic or edgy, classy or artistic – you can have the best of both worlds!

So let’s celebrate la vie de boheme with a collection of free fonts for your blog or wedding stationery projects.

ALL FONTS CAN BE DOWNLOADED FOR FREE – LINKS ARE PROVIDED BELOW.

Enjoy!

Free Boho-luxe fonts for your graphic wedding projects

  1. Mother of the bride: MODESTY
  2. True love: SIMPLY GLAMOROUS
  3. First look: BONDOLOU PEEK
  4. Save the date: WILDERNESS TYPEFACE
  5. Master of ceremony: BODONI
  6. Jenga: JACQUES & GILLES
  7. Cheese wheel: CHEDDAR JACK
  8. Artful: BRUSHER
  9. Favours: GOOD KARMA
  10. Dream catcher: WINTER CALLIGRAPHY
  11. Wild soul: AMBARELLA
  12. Cosmopolitan: NORTHERN LIGHTS
  13. Greenery: TAMORO SCRIPT
  14. French lace: ASTERISM REGULAR
  15. Free spirit: PENNELLINO
  16. Guest book: MOON

 

White Lilly bridal: Boho-Luxe Wedding Dresses From the Heart of South Africa

From classic cuts with adorable laces to fashion-forward designs with geometric patterns, there is not a single dress in the Modern Romance range that I don’t love.  If my own dress hunting days hadn’t been over already I would definitely jump on a plane to Jo’burg to visit White Lilly Ateliér, but to any of my friends or readers who recently got engaged, if you are a bride yearning for a unique wedding dress  I definitely think there could be a dress for you this alluring bridal range.

Bohemian luxe wedding gowns by White Lilly - presented by Sheer Ever After weddings

Since opening in 2013, White Lilly Atelier has become a leading South African bridal couturier, embodying femininity and romance for the discerning bohemian bride.

Founder Jacelyn Gozadinos worked in the fashion industry for 10 years and travelled extensively around the world learning about trends and development before launching her own brand.

 

Bohemian luxe wedding gowns by White Lilly - presented by Sheer Ever After weddings

 

The move into haute couture bridal wear, was a natural progression for this lifelong  design enthusiast.

“I adore beautiful fabrics, exquisite beading and soft dresses that flow,” she explains. “The type of dresses I specialize in – unique, boho-luxe wedding gowns that typically feature hours of delicate bead work – allow me to indulge my passions.”

Jacelyn’s designs for the free-spirited bride, the modernista, the bohemian goddess and every woman in between. Favourite fabrics include pure silk, Chantilly lace, and layers of silk chiffons, georgettes and tulle.

 

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The White Lilly label represents beauty, comfort, class and quality. Each dress is a true work of art; designed to look effortless and be rich in texture. All designs are romantic, feminine and often avantgarde, and the dresses appear in bridal publications regularly.

White Lily Atelier currently offers two beautiful collections, in this article we present you with the ready-to-wear line MODERN ROMANCE:

 

ALLY

A sophisticated, long-sleeved dress with beautiful, beaded French lace on the cuff and shoulder.

 

BEE

The bodice boasts a lovely, lace-edge detail, while the low back adds interest. True bohemian elegance!

 

CAROLINA

This simple, yet striking dress features soft draping and a beautiful cut-out back in with scalloped edging.

GEORGIE

This bohemian-inspired lace dress boasts the most beautiful, detachable bell sleeves that means you can change your look from ceremony to reception

ROSY

A superb dress for brides who want to make a subtle statement. The plunging bodice features tulle which cascades down into soft, pretty layers on the skirt.

 

 

LUMI

It’s impossible to resist this bohemian-inspired dress. Draped sleeves add to its soft, feminine and free-spirited appeal. 

 

HOLLY

A fresh, feminine dress with a soft silhouette. The strap-free bodice features hand-beaded lace and silk-covered buttons, while the soft tulle skirt flows from a gentle waist band.

 

 

INDIA

This ethereal dress is a dream. The bodice is adorned with beaded lace, while the soft, floaty tulle skirt flows with your movements.

 

 

MILAN

A gorgeous Grecian-inspired dress. The draped bodice, beadwork, 3D flowers, embroidery and a full, floaty skirt are just some of the features to admire.

 

CARA

This stylish dress combines geometric mesh, hand-beaded French lace and silk-covered buttons over a soft, blush lining. Three-quarter sleeves ensure year-round appeal and add to the dress’s softly sophisticated feel.

WYONA

This sensational dress commands attention. Made from geometric mesh, its features include the key hole opening in front and fringing along the back and sleeves. A one-of-a-kind wedding dress.

 

 

SOFIE dress from the Wild Hearts collection

All wedding gowns are beautifully hand-crafted and made-to-order. You can contact Jacelyn via the White Lilly website, here. You can also follow them on Instagram or Facebook.

(Bonus for international customers is the favorable South African exchange rate, which means you can snap up some of these beauties for less than $1000!)

Look out for the next article on White Lilly where we will present you with their stunning Haute Coutoure collecttion WILD HEARTS

All the best

 

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Planning An Extra-ordinary & Fuss-Free Wedding Part 1: The Fuss-free Aspects

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day

Have you read a wedding planning checklist yet? There are long lists of details that I could never imagine had to be present in my wedding. I don’t like stress. I don’t like unnecessary waste. And I don’t like clutter. How is that going to work when planning a wedding?

As a “child of the earth” who has swapped countries several times, my values are a mix from all over, and I don’t feel any need to include any rituals in my wedding which are outlined by implication. I am not practicing any religion and not feeling any particular bond to a specific cultural traditions either.

My fiancé has a Jewish ancestry and we will have a kind of Jewish ceremony,  we are including some meaningful elements as a node to his background. I am looking forward to decorate our chuppa with a green garland and lengths of chiffon, crushing the glass and everyone shouting Mazeltov! It will be exotic and personal!

But other than that, the other wedding day elements we have picked are those we feel are close to our heart, and others have been entirely excluded. I don’t want my husband to remove a garter in front of everyone I know, and tossing a bouquet seems to me like superstition and a waste of good flowers.

Traditional or not traditional, I find that many of these to-do-items seem irrelevant. I feel so lucky that I am planning a wedding in times when it is accepted to create a totally unique and different wedding, even in vouge!

With this article, I just want to remind and encourage you brides out there that we don’t have to follow a set of rules to get married – there are no criteria we have to fulfill -apart from the legal required procedure – the rest of the day is up to us.  We decide exactly how traditional or avantgarde we want to be, how typical-of-a-wedding day we’d like, or if we take this as the perfect opportunity to create our new traditions, our way.

This list is one part frugal, one part time-saving, one part de-stressing, and one tiiiny part cynical towards standard wedding norms.. 😉

Less relevant (in my opinion):

Save the dates: They are pretty and alluring, I agree. But isn’t this a very recent invention? Sending out the invites 2 months before is plenty notice. For your international guests, a personal email or phone call is much nicer. Just another reason for stationery makers to separate you from another chunk of your wedding budget. An option is to create your Save the date digitally, and send as an email.

Teeth whitening – if you brush 2 minutes twice a day and floss every other day, how bad can it possibly be?

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day

Pre-wedding manicure – I appreciate that many girls are already in a nail routine and love it, but if you are not then I don’t see any need to start one during your engagement just because you will show your ring to people. They will look at the ring, not your nails. Keeping them clean is enough. For your big day, it could however be a nice treat for a bit of “princessification”. I’d recommend to choose a timeless nail design as you will look at the photos when you are 80. What is in fashion now quickly goes out of fashion.

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day

Elaborate Centre pieces – candles and some foliage such as olive or penny gum goes a long way. Maybe a potted plant or cactus from your existing collection? A basket of colourful fruits and vegetables? Remember that not every table has to look the same either. Fewer, well executed decorations are going to be much more effective and stylish than big and over designed ones, if you ask me. Im a fan of the potted plant concept – they cost the same but last a long time (given you treat it right).

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day
Favours – No one in South Africa had heard about it before Pinterest. It is a nice gesture, but your guests are really not going to mind if they didn’t get a bag of homemade popcorn or a mini jar of decantered honey. Your invitation and hosting is plenty. (In some cases, they might be relieved). They will rather have a great selection of cheese to nibble on at the wedding.

Aisle carpet or decorations – total overkill. All the guests are just looking at you, and you and the groom are just looking at eachother. The bride will be decoration enough! Keep it simple and focus on beautiful bunches of foilage and flowers on the arch, at the entrance to the aisle or on the ceremony table. That is where people will look at and appreciate it.

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day

Programs – another irrelevant piece of paper that will be looked at momentarily only to then be tossed. They all know what will happen: The officiant will speak, someone’s gonna sing, somebody else might read something nice, more music and then vows, kiss, confetti, hoorays!

 

Bridal beauty pressures such as Wedding day perfume – whats wrong with your normal one? Or if you don’t usually wear, why should you now? You might end up spending the day sneezing, or your husband might not enjoy it – how we smell is how we subliminally are attracted to eachother, so wearing a brand new perfume could be a bit of a gamble.

Beating yourself up in the gym or through a starvation diet – unless you loose more than 7 kgs, very few people are going to notice anything anyway. You are getting married, not signing up for bikini model school. Size 10 is no better than size 12, and 12 no better than 14. Your sanity is priority. Stick to your normal routine. Your dress will work the magic if it fits you right.
Facials every month leading up  to the wedding – it is a nice pampering treat which could be good for relaxation. But your skin is probably not going to be visible through the ultra-photogenic foundation you’ll be wearing on your wedding day. Washing and moisturizing regularly and a face pack once a week will go a long way.

Talking about makeup – most of us knows how to prettify ourselves to look a bit more polished – there are plenty of online tutorials too. Use what you would spend on the makeup artist to buy your own professional makeup instead, that you can use again and again. The natural, understated look is always going to be more pretty and timeless in the end. Go for a look that you will proudly show your children.

My advise is: don’t try to be or look like anyone else than yourself.

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day

Fancy backdrop or floral wall– ribbons, makramé or foliage attached on string will be plenty decorative, pin-worthy and unique. Minimalists might favour strings of lights or some beautiful fabric instead.

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day

Flowers everywhere – it s expensive, only lasts a few hours and is costly for you and the environment. Unless you can forage wildflowers or cut flowers from somebody’s garden – reduce the wastage and expenditure by choosing greenery over florals, having an organically produced bouquet, have bridesmaids carry a single stem flower and keeping flower decorations to a minimum. Choose your favorite flowers and display them where they will be appreciated for years to come – such as in your hair, on your wedding cake and your bouquet (as they will be photographed the most here)
People hardly notice what is hanging in the trees or above the tables anyway.

 

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day
Sit-down starters – Why not let the starters happen during cocktail hours as canapés and fingerfoods. Less formal and more dynamic mingling and interaction.
100s of homemade signs with slogans/ rhyming instructions on. It is only cute up to a point, then it quickly gets corny. Stick to 2-3 essential ones, such as directions to the toilet and where to sign the guest book.
Groomsmens outfit – rent or borrow, or look for more or less matching wardrobe items such as white shirt and grey trousers, then coordinate with a matching tie or bowtie. Mismatched is also great!

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day
Co-ordinating bridesmaids makeup, hairstyle, earrings, bangles, nail polish… having them wearing more or less the same colour and hairpiece/ crown is plenty enough. No one will notice the details. Your wedding is not boarding school. As for shoes, let them pick a matching colour from their own wardrobes – for example white, black, or metallic. I’ve asked mine to wear leather sandals because they are nice and everyone has got a pair.
Wedding music – for the background music and DJ, an ipod playlist will do just as good job, as long as there is someone who can press the stop and play button as needed.
Individual wedding menus – guests will look at it once. Printing one per table will be enough, or writing it on a bigger board for more to see.
Paper invites – easier to manage RSVPs’ if you send from a wedding website. People prefer to do everything online these days anyway. Cheaper, less time consuming, and less paper waste too (yes you do know they will end up in the bin soon enough?) No guest is going to turn down your wedding because they didn’t think the invites where goo enough.
Fancy table runners and napkins – table runners are just an unnecessary detail and can make tables seem overly busy. All that napkins need to do  is absorbing the dribbling  soup starter and your smudging lipstick, so thread count and colour is never gonna be worth remembering. I ensure you: nobody is EVER gonna say “Oh do you recall cousin Mark’s wedding – the napkins were just SO stylish and soft”. I guarantee it. Spend that money on great wine instead, that’s something guests will appreciate more. (You do need napkins- don’t get me wrong – but in this area there is no need to go for top quality)

Making sense of wedding traditions - for a fuzz-free wedding day
The extraordinary wedding cake– these days wedding cake designers seem to have taken up the challenge of making each and every cake into a more elaborate and bombastic design than previous.

My take on wedding cakes are similar to dresses: less is more. Instead of paying for good looks, focus on the essential stuff – which is that the cake tastes amazing. Asking for a simple white fondant cake is much more practical too – (less risk of sliding, collapsing or melting, and the cake will keep moist even if on display for a few hours.) Easily transported and easily assembled means less risk of cake accidents. Decorate with fresh flowers, succulent or fresh berries and fruit, and you will have a stunning and unique cake.

Another idea is to  have several smaller cakes instead of one big cake – this way you have more possibilities to unleash your creativity.
DIY ALL the decor – it is pretty time consuming, actually often more expensive, stressful and after a while quite repetitive. I feel embarrassed when I compare my dream catchers to those on Pinterest, and the tin vase table scape that looked so great online, to me mine look like a kindergarden recycling activity. And I thought I loved DIY!

Unless you have loads of time, money, ingenuity, persistence and crafting experience, chances are that your projects might end up rather sub-standard. Consider freshly foraged local flowers, naturally found objects and greenery instead.

If you DO want to DIY something, I dare you do do something you DIDN’T find on Pinterest but invented yourself  (isn’t it time for some new creations now?!)
My second tip is to produce or buy decor items that  you could also make use of after the wedding: such as lanterns, candle holders, picture frames, concrete pots, copper pipe candelabra, coffee table or a nice artwork for your home. It would be both beautiful and practical keepsakes.
My third and last tip is to select 1 or 2 projects, take you time with it and lovingly do them really well.

Decorated champagne flutes for the newlyweds – the ones you buy look mostly tacky. And why are they neccesary? Be minimalist stylish and attach a twig of rosemary instead, or a simple bow of twine.

Formal posed photographs with every possible combination of family members. Why not let them be more organic and documentary style – they will be more natural and representative of what the day really was like.

First dance with elaborate steps requiring dance classes? I personally do not feel enthusiastic about the prospect of showing off my dancing skills, and will gladly avoid this wedding tradition. If I did, I would probably do a slow shuffle to Bryan Adams – like I did on school disco’s in the 90s. Just for a laugh.

A fancy carriage – Ever heard of Uber gold? It will be cheaper and easier in every way, you will conveniently get a jazzy car for less. Or ask around in the network – someone ought to have a cool car or a characterful old truck. Few will take notice your mode of transport – spend the money on guest comfort instead such as comfortable chairs, cozy blankets and great wine.

Please take my advice with a pinch of salt! All I intend to do is to question why we do certain things, and if we really have to. There is nothing wrong with being traditional. But there is also nothing wrong with going your own way.

The essential elements on your wedding where it IS worth paying more attention to, even if it means spending a bit extra, will be presented to you  in next weeks Wedding planning post!

In the meantime, I hope you feel inspired to find ways to de-clutter and re-organize your wedding day so that it makes better sense to you. Cut the unnecessary details out and rather focus on meaningful elements that will add real value.

The less fussy details – the less to worry about.  More room for love, happiness and quality time with your groom and guests.

image sources: oh best day ever // hello gem // the perfect wedding // hi miss puff // junebug weddings

The causes and cures of Wedding Distress (Brides and friends of brides you have to read this!)

Having been a bride-to-be for nearly 6 months, I have definitely had moments of despair and disbelief, especially in the last month or so which proved more challenging in ways I could have never expected. First it looked like my mum suddenly wasn’t going make it because of requiring surgery. My maid of honour had a car crash and injured a disc in her neck. My custom-ordered wedding dress turned out to be a disaster and I struggled for almost a month to get a refund. I fell when running and smashed my face on the pavement, spending 2 weeks swollen, badly bruised and a nose like a sweet potatoe. When my new dress maker seemed to have vanished into thin air with my deposit and precious bridal fabric, I was on the verge on a “bridal breakdown” for sure. I was ready to cancel all wedding plans and elope.

 

Causes and Cures for Wedding Planning Panic

Luckily, all the things above got more or less resolved eventually. But I am still struggling with the anxious aftermaths, difficulty to sleep some nights, fatigue and my lips have taken a beating as I can’t seem to stop nibbling on them.

So what it is that happens to us when we are planning a wedding? Why are brides susceptible to anxiety? Why can the months of engagement easily turn into months of stress, and sometimes even dread?

Now with this unfortunate hands-on-experience, it is time to dive deep into the subject and unravel the causes – and cures- of wedding panic.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic

In the research from popular wedding articles on online wedding blogs, everyone is taking about “BRIDEZILLA”.
If you ask me, this term is extremely unfair and judgemental!
I want to tell all brides out there, that we have every right to “go mental” as brides-to-be. Being engaged and planning a wedding is SO charged of various and contrasting emotions:

On the one hand:
Extreme happiness. Excitement. Looking forward to an incredible special day. Waiting for a life together with the love of our life. Getting to choose between fantastic dresses, décor, music, all things related to wedding conceptualizing and design. Looking forward to spending time with family and friends. Fun preparations together with your wedding party.

On the other hand:
Anticipation – easily turned into nervousness. Complex emotions about what lies ahead – marriage is a pretty big commitment right?
Indecisiveness – there seems to  be an infinite of big and small decisions to be made- after about 50 decisions it gets pretty muddled as of what is relevant and irrelevant. (Napkin colours – do you know what I mean?)
The prospect of being centre of attention can frighten some – me included.
The prospect of coordinating and getting all the details to fit together into one smooth and seamless event – we want it to be amazing on top of that.
Family and friends from all walks of life in one place can be joyful but  also overwhelming.
Juggling bridesmaids personalities and making decisions as a group.
Deciding on their dresses – and the big one: deciding on YOUR DRESS, shoes, hair, makeup and accessories – hello! I can take 1 hour getting ready for an evening with book club and I know others that are similar or worse. For a day when one is going to be the most photographed EVER, one can easily develop anxieties about ones appearance, not to mention ones figure. Especially when there are millions of dresses and shoes etc to choose from.

There is already a lot of pressure on women to look good just in everyday life, on ones wedding that pressure is amplified beyond what many women are comfortable with. A common description of the typical wedding day as PERFECT – no wonder at all that brides-to-be are yearning for a perfect wedding day too, which includes perfect appearance, perfect details and perfect everything. This is why, my dear readers, brides-to-be often come across as “perfectionists” – and it opens every single possibility of immense insecurity.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic

Many women getting married have no problems with the above and take wedding preparations in their stride, or just hire a wedding planner. But for any one who has even the slightest inclination towards anxiety and self-doubt, this is definitely one of the more challenging times a woman will ever be going through. (Ok, raising toddlers and teenagers might be worse)

So will everyone PLEASE stop talking about bridezillas now, and simply have some understanding and compassion of what it is like? Brides are often accused for being “Divas”, Neglectful of others (including fiancés),  Aggressive, Irritable, Perfectionists, Obsessed, Attention seeking and the worst: Irrational.
All these behaviours are merely symptoms of the extreme stress, anxiety and the overwhelming phase we are going through. Have some mercy on brides, man!

Instead of the bride being constantly asked to monitor her behaviour, being kinder to bridesmaids, being more grateful, humble and serene, how about her near and dear ones stops mocking her and instead showing a bit compassion and understanding? If she is attention seeking – maybe you haven’t given her enough attention? If a friend of you is getting married and you find her worrying about centrepieces – just stop for a sec and realize that this is a woman in distress, and she is not intentionally being relentless or “irrational”, but only experiencing insecurity and confusion whether to please her grandma or her uncle in the choice of flowers.

It is not a conscious decision by brides to act this way– it is rather that we are under attack by wedding demons, way beyond what we can control ourselves. Our bridezilla diva tendencies is not a choice – it is a result of too much pressure from every direction. Because we have looked forward to this special day for a long time, and now it is fast approaching – surely that is reason enough to get hyper-excited about everything about it – even the flower girls basket?

We have never done this kind of thing before – so it is obvious why one is going to feel insecure and bewildered, all at the very same time.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic
Have you ever found yourself spending more than 20 minutes in the cereal aisle of a supermarket trying to decide what breakfast cereal you want? There are simply too many brands to choose from, alluring packaging, concepts of what is good for you or not, in the end of it  you don’t even know what you like anymore. Do I like cranberries or raisins more? Do I prefer granola or flakes? Gooseberry/ almond or cashew/ fig? What about my fiancé, what does he like again – maybe this sports blend? In the end, you might pick up something that you really didn’t like, or walked out of the aisle empty handed.

Even a normal person can find this detailed decision making too much. Multiply that feeling by 10.000 – that is what it is like to be a bride. Do you follow? Stress and too much choice can make any normal human irrational. It is not fun.

Ok, so lets stop ranting and rather take a quick look at what can be done to support a bride you know going through this, or if you are a bride, how you can help yourself feeling this confused way. Because maybe you like me is just sick of spending everyone waking hour thinking about your wedding, debating endlessly with yourself if you want a block heel or a stiletto for your wedding shoe, how much to spend on the dessert buffet, associating everything in your surrounding to your wedding (it is not pleasant im telling you – when I go for a “relaxing” run I cant stop thinking about greenery garlands, and that is most likely why I tripped and bashed my face into the pavement)
Maybe you are sick of finding yourself absent minded and distracted (I have found mittens in the freezer) because your mind is full of possible vendors, leaving you unable to concentrate on everyday tasks.

The main objective is:

To calm the bride/ you down and find some healthy distance to the issue – try watching a lighthearted movie (not about weddings), go for a walk in nature, or visit a friend who is not in your wedding party ( do NOT talk about weddings)
To understand that the bride/ you  are not going crazy, she/ you are going through a stressful time, and everybody does sometime so it’s okay
To realize the bride/ you are not a wedding “freak” and this is really normal (hence the numerous articles on the subject)
The bride is/ you are not acting this way by choice, she is/ you are temporarily taken away by feelings that are outside of her normal personality and she needs gentle treatment to come out of it – not making fun of, brushing over, or abandonment
To understand that the wedding is only the brides/ yours and your fiancés – not some bridal blog or wedding magazine. Peer pressure and comparing with other weddings can leave one feeling “not good enough” But the most important thing is that you create your day your way, not anybody else’s.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Panic

How to deal with yourself/ a bride you know in times of wedding worry before it leads to acute bridal distress
It is important to get some wedding “off”time and plan some time away from wedding planning. For example, try to have a few wedding free days per week
As a wedding planning human being, you are going to have 100s of ideas coming to you at random times. Instead of trying to have all your wedding ideas and thoughts in your head, put it somewhere like in your phone. Me and the fiancé share a list where we jolt down what we come up with, just to get it off our minds, and can look at it later. (We have ended up scrapping most of the ideas already)
Limit wedding related social media time – if Internet was ever accused for being information overload – Pinterest is inspiration overload.
Have a friend – who is not in your wedding party- you can talk to about your wedding who isn’t personally involved. It can be especially helpful to talk to an older, already  married woman. They will help you get some healthy perspective and realistic view points.
Try to solve other things in your life as a distraction – perhaps time to reupholster that sofa? If you don’t keep up with your “normal” life at the same time as wedding planning, you are almost guaranteed to feel empty and sad after the big day – a.k.a the “wedding blues”
Adopt a cheerful motto such as “Everything is going to be fine in the end – and if it is not fine, it is not the end” or similar for a bit of self-reassuring as needed
Try to limit the amount of alcohol you consume – it makes sleeping much  harder, it exacerbates anxiety and endless worries, and is a depressant which could kill motivation.
Don’t crash diet – very bad for your mood and energy levels. Eat balanced, nutritious and stable diet – a bit of this and a bit of that, no deprivation because it tends to backlash in the end.
Have a stable and sensible exercise routine, don’t try too hard or you might burnout or loose the willpower
Pick out 3 – max 5- segments of the wedding to focus harder on, such as the ceremony, dress and the food, and let the other segments of the party be less important (napkins, flower girl baskets etc). That way your attention will not get spread too thin.

Causes and Cures for Wedding Planning Panic
As soon as you are engaged, people will LOVE to tell you everything you should and shouldn’t do. Just smile, say thank you very much, mop up one or two ideas (or none) and then move on. It is your wedding so create it from your heart and your individual circumstances. Know what you love and what you don’t – it will make deciding much easier. No two weddings are ever going to be the same. You are not arranging somebody else’s wedding – your and your grooms only. There is no right or wrong way. Realizing that will take a huge bundle of stress of your shoulders.

It’s hard not to get caught up in all the attention and excitement, and most of the time in is FUN. There’s nothing wrong with being eager about your wedding and gorging in all the details – no matter how serious or silly they are. So try to just relax and have a good time, keep your happiness and motivation level as high as possible, be sensible for your own sake  and enjoy the process! You are most likely only going through this time once in your life, this time will fly by quickly so be as “bridal” as you feel like and hopefully your surroundings will be understanding enough for you to keep up with your wedding enthusiasm 🙂

image sources: hello may // joel allegretto // hey wedding lady   //  magnolia rouge // my wedding guides

Iconic 2017 wedding dresses – the best styles summarized

The year 2017 have seen trends such as tiered skirts, the rise of the illusion bodice, and plunging back designs. There has also been a continuous increase in the popularity of the boho gown, princess gowns as well as modest high necklines.

It is a year where total opposites have worked just as well so it should be easy for every bride getting married this year to find something to suit her taste.

Designers such as Marchesa Bridal, Jenny Packham, Mira Zwillinger and Monique Lhullier have embodied some of these trends perfectly.

Iconic wedding dress looks 2017 ---Presented by Sheer Ever After weddings

Typical looks

Soft and voluminous layers and revealing skin. Barely-there sheer paneling and hot necklines and backs. Skin showing through cutouts -front or back- are also right on the money. The summary key word is “ethereal glamor”.  Look at designers such as Berta or Liz Martinez for inspiration.

Colours: the immaculate white or ivory dress seems passé – rather be fashion-forward go for a shade of dark ivory, light blush, champagne, nude, silver or even serenity blue.

Sleeves: the off-the-shoulder dress continues to triumph, especially for destination, boho-chic and beach brides. Choose either longs sleeve or short sleeve, or just a symbolic “curtain” of fabric worn on your upper arms. Short sleeves, cap sleeves and long sleeves are all seen frequently – the boob tube bodice is no longer a standard choice as more and more brides are opting for some form of design for the shoulders and arms.
Another trend is the looser, less fitted sleeve for a romantic and airy look. The bold and trend setting bride might go  for a dramatic fairly sleeve, flutter or bell sleeve on her dress.


Necklines: 
The sweetheart neckline is still a popular choice for bride – in 2017 the plunge got a bit deeper (sometimes all the way down to the waist), but to balance the revealing cleavage an illusion fabric has been added for a bit of coverage.

 

As well as daring plunging necklines, on the opposite end of the skin-baring spectrum we have seen a rebirth of the modest style dress with high Victorian collars that encircles the base of the neck. The prim and proper necklines have taken hold and will continue to do so in 2018.

So you are free to choose either daring or modest – two opposites that work just as well for your 2017 wedding.


Back design
: Intricate and detailed open backs with or without illusion fabric, and bejeweled details. The deep and super-adorned v-back design also made an entry this year. Show stopping keyhole back designs with intricate and glamourous details such as beading and sequins are also on the rise.

 

The Styles and Details

The boho trend has definitely taken a hold and is a trend here to stay. 2017 has brought in flavours of gypsy bridal looks, inspired by music festivals and free-loving wedding themes. Look for hippie influence floral pattern French lace, 70’s cut gown with bold details such as fringes, crochet elements and bell sleeves. So great for a non-conventional bride with her main agenda being showcasing her personal and care-free style.

 

 

If you are a minimalist bride, 2017 has many exciting dresses to choose from. Separated from unnecessary frills, lace and small details, the fabrics and lines of these dresses are smooth and uncomplicated which gives a clean and sleek impression for the bride who needs very little to  shine. Available in any silhouette, neckline and sleeve length, there is no reason to feel deprived of style.

 

In the opposite direction, another trend we see an increase in decadent details. Applique, floral 3D detailing, beading, crystals, feathers and twinkling adornments that will make you feel like a star. Expect to see a field of blossoms swirling across the sheer bodice of a floaty romantic dress (ideally in a hue of rose quartz)

The Shapes:

Bridal silhouettes are now less structured and more soft and flowy – perfect for dancing and for hot season weddings. An easy a-line dress with soft tulle or layers of chiffon creates a swishy and light look that will truly make a bride feel liberated and comfortable.


The super size ball gown have seen a come back – good news for the dramatic and traditional bride who craves the princess experience. Tiers and ruffles are also seen more often to add visual interest, give architectural shape and exaggerated volume to the skirt.


The trumpet/ fit and flare silhouette gently hugs in at the hips, and then hangs loosely in a softer flow around the legs. Not quite A-line/ sheath and not quite fitted like a mermaid, this is a perfect shape for equal comfort and allure.

 

A trend who marries the best of both trends is the detachable over skirt – wear the large size skirt for your ceremony and photos, and for the reception you simply remove the ball gown and reveal a cocktail or fitted dress perfect for mingling and dancing.

crystal design

Choose according to the style of your wedding, personal preference and the season of your wedding. If you follow trends or not is your choice – the important things is that you find the dress you adore, regardless of what anyone else tells you 😉

 

Image credits: harpers bazaar // wedding insirasi // pinterest

 

Elopement wedding – why & why not?

Elopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

Wedding planning is the best thing ever for some – and the worst for others. Not every bride and groom are smitten by the idea of a big celebration with a hundred or more of people around them. Your personalities, priorities and your lust for adventure might just make it more sensible to elope as opposed to arranging a traditional wedding.

Perhaps you are a bit shy, favor independence or possibly have complicated family relations, or for any other reason -such as a sense of fun, romance, or practical or budget reasons- feel like eloping is more up your street. If you have a tendency to get stressed out, or simply cannot understand what the big “fuss” is all about – an elopement might be your answer.

It could be simple reason that you prefer to do something purely for yourselves, or something a bit different, and you might find that it suits you better to create your own wedding day layout as supposed to following a line of conventional traditions, that you might not feel any connection to, or find irrelevant or unnecessary to you.

Is elopement for you? Or are you determined to have the traditional wedding day, where you and your groom are the king and queen of the day? Which option would make your wedding dream come true?

The advantages of a traditional wedding:

  • The buzz and fun of the preparations (some love a challenge of this kind!)
  • It is a once-in-a-life time event (supposedly…)
  • It is a big get-together where 2 families can get to know each other better and celebrate together as one family
  • A chance for all your friends from all walks of life to meet and mingle
  • The traditions: cake cutting, garter toss, bouquet toss, first dance etc – some brides have looked forward to this all their life
  • The reception party with food, dancing, guest book, favours, centrepieces etc
  • The opportunity to design and decorate your dream day with flowers, decor and colours
  • Photographs with lots of family members and guests
  • Significant memories for family members and friends
  • The shared joy amongst all attending
  • “Celebrities” for a day, being the centre of attention
  • The registry – people will most likely give gifts or cash and you can wish for anything you likeElopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

    The disadvantage of a traditional wedding

  • The cost of renting a venue, tent, feeding people, wedding party, hair and makeup etc
  • The pressure and stress involved with planning and coordinating a big event, such as guest list, invites and RSVP management
  • People management – bridesmaids drama, flaring up family feuds, grumpy step-cousins who did not get invited and so on
  • Nerves – not everyone is built to handle stress well
  • Stage fright – not every person enjoys being in the spotlight
  • Loud and “crazy” – not everyone likes dancing or being at a big party
  • The more people involved, the more opinions and personalities are in the mix
  • The build up to the wedding can be exhausting, especially the week before when all final details must fall into place, and out of town guests start to arrive
  • The need to find good vendors and people you can rely on and trust to do a good job – you have to be comfortable with putting your fate in their hands
  • It might put a lot of pressure on the bride to look great, loose weight, have perfect hair and makeup etc
  • Dress, shoe and accessory hunting (not just for for bride, but bridesmaids, groom and groomsmen too) is actually pretty confusing and hard mental work, not to mention pricey
  • Liaison and negotiations about costs and contracts with vendors – not everyone is cut out to be a business woman/ man
  • Lots of small and big decisions to be made, which can prove overwhelming especially if your nature is anxious and indecisive
  • Planning details such as seating chart, choice of music, wedding colours, even choosing the wedding party – some think these aspects shadow what the wedding truly should be about – the newly weds
  • Depending on how lucky/ resilient/ multi tasking genius you and your groom are – the months of wedding planning could be a stressful nightmare. Not everyone is up for it

Elopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

Elopement: Advantages

  • It is all about you, your love and your commitment to each other
  • There is nothing else in the way for the 2 of you  to enjoy each others presence
  • Less risk of mishaps – except missing the plane I suppose
  • No paraphernalia (flower girl’s nappy needs changing, bridesmaid broke her stiletto, escort cards blew away in the wind..) to worry about
  • It will most likely be a lot less expensive (unless you decide to travel far and wide with a luxury honeymoon)
  • Can save the money for something long term which is perhaps more worthwhile than a few hours of party – or splash it on that luxury honeymoon
  • Less people= having to rely less heavily on others
  • You can be more in control of your own wedding
  • Manageable size = less stress = easier to achieve
  • Can be planned sooner = shorter engagement
  • More spontaneous and “wild” (Las Vegas, anyone?)
  • Some say it is more romantic
  • Great excuse to travel to your dream destination
  • You can still have the dress, the flowers, professional photos and cake, at a smaller and more cost-effective scale
  • Could spend more money on your wedding dress (- hello Grace Loves Lace!)
  • Can create a completely unique day, choose an unusual ceremony spot (nature, city, unconventional locations and buildings not normally used as a wedding venue)
  • Can get amazing wedding photos in a wedding destination that would probably not have been possible otherwise.

Disadvantages of eloping

  • If keeping it secret, you will not get much help from others, unless you still hire a wedding planner
  • It foregos certain aspect of wedding preparations (dress hunting with mum and maid of honour, getting ready with the girls, or bachelorette party for example) – which you might feel like you missed out on
  • Lonesome – perhaps you do want to have near and dear around you when you make the promise of a lifetime
  • Possibly regretting not arranging the “big day” afterwards
  • Family and friends might feel left out and get resentful
  • You probably wont receive many gifts

It is basically personality and a list of preferences that should determine your choice. Remember, just because you got engaged, it does not automatically mean you are destined to have a wedding with all the traditional aspects that comes with it. Modern weddings are completely flexible events and you can plan it to suit both of you  perfectly.

Do give elopement a thought if you  are daunted by the prospect of arranging a traditional wedding day, or simply feel a desire to do something “different” and being adventurous with your groom. In the end of the day, you are marrying your husband and not anyone else or a tradition you are not bothered about – the most important thing is that you as a couple both are doing what feels most natural to you.

Torn? The perfect compromise: An Intimate Wedding!

Final tip: it is best to decide if you are eloping or not BEFORE you invite people to your wedding or pick a bridal party – in order to not making people disappointed 🙂

Elopement weddings - why you should give it a thought before planning your wedding

image credits: junebug weddings // intimate weddings

 

Questions to ask your wedding venue, ceremony venue & caterer – the most comprehensive list

Important questions to ask your wedding venue, ceremony venue and caterer!

Important questions to ask your wedding venue, ceremony venue and caterer!
Vrede and Lust wedding venue, Tulbagh, South Africa

Choosing a venue is one of the first things that you need to do when planning your wedding. Picking the right venues for your ceremony and reception are invaluable to creating your perfect wedding day.

Before you start visiting your dream venues, you’ll need to know exactly what questions to ask to make sure you’re choosing the right place. Since you’re probably only going to interview venues once in your life, you might not know exactly what to ask. Luckily, we have got you covered!

Important questions to ask your wedding venue, ceremony venue and caterer!

The wedding ceremony site and reception venue are the cornerstones for your wedding event, so it’s important to pick a site that fits you and your grooms vision, your budget and the kind of day you would like to have. Of course going with a reputable venue is important – reliability is a big factor you need to consider.

When booking the venue for your wedding you are entering into a business agreement. While the person you are working with is not likely to be deceptive, they are in business to make a profit. Consequently, there are certain aspects you should confirm and get in writing to avoid last minute surprises. Also, when thinking about and comparing costs between different places, it’s important to understand the details so you can make a direct comparison.

Important questions to ask your wedding venue, ceremony venue and caterer!
Groot Constantia Wineyards, Cape Town, South Africa

Below is a long list of the things you should be checking with your wedding venue before making any decisions about where to hold your wedding.  For a really comprehensive planning kit, get yourself the Sheer Wedding Planner  and Budget tool. It’s got detailed worksheets for your wedding planning and budget tracker.

This list probably looks overwhelming, and I don’t recommend you sit the wedding venue coordinator down and interview them about everything all at once, but definitely read through it to help you avoid missing any important parts that you didn’t know that you need to know. You might be able to cover some of the questions yourself by reading on their website – they might have an information sheet already available.

Important questions to ask your wedding venue, ceremony venue and caterer!
Vrede and Lust wedding venue, Tulbagh, South Africa

photo credits: manhattan bride // zara zoo photography
Here are the all important questions you need to ask before signing on the dotted line.

Questions specific to the ceremony venues

  1. Where will the sun be positioned during the ceremony? 
  2. Are we close to nice photo locations? 
  3. Are there suitable spots for family/group photos? 
  4. Does the ceremony venue supply a sound system or can they give us any advice on acoustics? 
  5. Is there seating available for family/elderly guests? 
  6. Is it wheelchair accessible? 
  7. Are there restrooms? 
  8. What sort of passing traffic can you expect to get at this venue?
    If outdoors, you many not want cars and foot traffic walking nearby in the ceremony

 

Questions for Reception Venues

  1. Is it available on the day we want to get married? What days are available?

  2. How much does it cost to hire the venue? What exactly does it include?
    Ask to see an itemized breakdown of costs. It is critical for you to clarify the agreement not only so you know the final cost, but also so you understand which extra costs could possibly fall on your shoulders.

  3. Are there reduced rates for winter or weekdays?
    You could save as much as 40% on venue costs

  4. How many people can the venue accommodate?
    Find out if that number includes the staff members

  5. Can I use my own vendors? Is there an additional charge for that?
    Many locations have their own coordinators, caterers, or other professionals they want you to use for your event or included in the cost.

  6. Does the price include alcohol or is that extra? (See separate list of questions for alcohol further down)
    Some venues will charge based on actual wine, beer, and liquor used. If this is the case, the quoted fee will not include those items.

  7. Are rentals included in this price? What items am I likely to have to hire in? Tables, utensils, chairs, or just décor?
    Smalls like champagne coolers, table runners, napkins, candle holders and other adornments may or may not be provided. Find out what you can rent from the venue or what you need to outsource yourself – you don’t want to  realize on the day that there are no table cloths!

  8. How many hours do we get at the venue? Is there a time limit?

  9. How much are additional hours?
    The cost of going over on time can be substantial.

  10. Are there set up fees?
    This could be especially important to make clear if you plan to have both your ceremony and reception at the same venue.

  11. When can we access the venue to decorate?
    Sometimes only get access the day of the wedding – you’ll want to be getting ready then and would need to delegate to somebody else

  12. Do you do the set up and clean up or do I?

  13. What staffing/support is on hand for set up and clean up? During the wedding? Post-wedding?

  14. Is parking extra? Is parking free for guests?
    It may or not be included in the quoted fee.

  15. Is it wheelchair accessible?

  16. How many restrooms are there?
    Make sure you are happy with their appearance too! Ask if you would be allowed to decorate the restrooms, if you wish to do so.

  17. If there is an additional service charge – does it cover all tips?
    Does the fee cover extras to staff or do they feel it is customary to tip certain additional staff?

  18. Is there a time limit and what’s the cost of going over?
    There is often a set amount of time you can utilize the reception space

  19. How they will arrive at the final cost?
    If you are charged per person for any piece of the reception, you will want to understand how it has been charged.

  20. Is there an additional cost for my other vendors (photographer, videographer, planner, and DJ/band)?
    Your professionals will need to eat, so it is important to know if or how you need to count them. Should they be in the final head count or reported separately (In other words, if you can get a discount rate for the vendors)?

  21. Is there space for a band or DJ? Are there noise constraints?

  22. Is there a dance floor?
    Sometimes that will affect the number of guests the place can seat, as there might be less space for tables if it is in one room

  23. Are there special considerations for children?
    The child cost is most often less than the adult rate.

  24. What are payment terms, i.e. what sort of deposit is required and when is final account settled?

  25. What is the cancellation policy? 

Questions to ask about catering

  1. Can I bring in my own food, other drink, and cake?  
  2. If I do bring my own food, drink, or cake are there extra charges? 
  3. Do they have an on-site caterer/chef or do we need to arrange our own caterer? 
  4. Do they have an on-site kitchen? (If not, you will be limited to the types of food service available) 
  5. Is there a range of menus? 
  6. Will the menu be able to cater to different dietary needs (vegetarian, low-carb, gluten free etc) 
  7. Will we need to inform the caterers in advance of dietary requirements, or can they cope with these requests on the night?

Questions to ask the reception venue about Alcohol

  1. Are you fully licensed? 
  2. Do they have the brand of alcohol you favour? 
  3. What’s the corkage fee – is it per person, per bottle or a set charge? 
  4. What happens to half drunk bottles of wine, or left overs? 
  5. Do I need to hire glasses or will venue arrange? 
  6. Do I need to arrange bar staff? 
  7. Do I need to arrange a duty manager for the bar? 
  8. Do they allow bring your own toasting wine/ champagne? 
  9. Do they do alcohol packages?

 

Are there any other questions you’d like to add to this list? Comment below with any questions we’ve missed or handy questions you asked.

Botanical greenery wedding decor

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From elegant botanical luxe, to neutral minimalism, eclectic bohemian or vibrantly tropical, the colour green is right on trend. Known for being refreshing, renewing, and restorative, the colour green is radiant yet calming, and brings about a lush air of the natural world. In the world of weddings, there is simply no better colour to include in your wedding theme and decor.

Suitable for any type of wedding, you can work greenery into your big day to add interesting texture and plenty of alluring prettiness. Also known as a “trans-seasonal” color, this trend is completely doable anywhere:indoors, outdoors; anytime: spring, summer, autumn or winter.

The other wonderful truth about a botanical wedding is that you can easily beautify your wedding on a budget. Being more water wise and less heavy with pesticides than cut flowers, greenery is kinder to the environment too.

Rustic meets elegance in green tablescapes, bouquets and garlands, and flows together with florals  in an eye-catching harmony. Greenery is here to stay, so prepared to be inspired by the richness of this colour and diversity of the materials.

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Use greenery anywhere you  would use floral installations, such as a garland on your wedding arch, to decorate the aisle, as individual chair decorations, button holes, bridesmaids bouquets, centre pieces and overhead hanging installation. You can even use it as confetti and to decorate your cake.

Mix with metallic accent -you can never go wrong with rose gold- for a sense of glamour, or copper for modern industrialism. Pair with white and champagne hues for a luxurious touch. Soft pinks and peaches for a feminine and soft ambiance. Blues for a crisp and cool colour scheme.

Material wise, greenery works just as well with raw wood as it does with soft linens, glass and metals accents to marry the material and the greenery together. Together with candles and lanterns it creates a relaxing and romantic atmosphere.

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Succulents, eucalyptus, ferns and tropical leaves can serve as the starting point for a celebratory wedding theme that embraces the beauty of the earth.
Airplants, artichoke, thistle and myrtle can also add a sense of playfulness as interesting elements of surprise to your wedding decorations.

For the bride, swap the bedazzled hair piece for an equally elegant hairpiece made of small succulents. Or why not wear a crown made solely out of green matter?
In the bouquet, mix foliage with different shades or green, greenish yellows and greenish blues to add dimension and vibrant hues.

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There are so many different varieties of succulents that your bouquet or centrepieces could be made entirely out of this attractive and water-wise plant. Bonus: the succulent family is available all year around, and after the wedding you can simply plant them back into their pots for a permanent wedding bouquet – living memories that will last forever.

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The beauty of nature is that there are so many shapes and textures on offer – just think of the range from soft lambs ears, chubby succulents, whispy leaves and plump but sharp edged aloe leaves. Be creative and don’t be afraid of trying new unexpected combinations. It is a natural resource available within easy reach, so make sure to take advantage of its abundance.

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Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

 

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

 

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

Greenery and botanical wedding inspiration    SheerEverAfter.wordpress.com

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